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Posted by on Jun. 11, 2012 at 11:01 PM
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Okay so i am 20 weeks 1 day pregnant and i love that i'm pregnant with my first baby, But me and my fiance all the way up to 19 weeks thoguht we were having a boy an that's what we really really wanted an i felt my fiance would be disappointed if we didnt have a boy. So we go to the ultrasound an the baby had her legs crossed an somewhat moved but she didn't open them all the way but the doctor said it looks like a girl. So my fiance was happy an has seemed happy an to my suprice i am the one thats disappointed an i hate myself for not being more excited i mean i am pushing myself to be excited an everyone else seems to be 100X more excited then me that i'm having a girl, when i keep telling myself that it's okay an to be happy but in the back of my mind i'm hoping the doctor was wrong and it really is a boy. I feel like a horrible mother an a horrible person an when i sit there and think about how i feel i can't help but sit there and cry, my fiance has no clue on how i feel about this, i mean i really really wanna boy but girls arnt a horrible thing i just dont know. i never wanted a girl. so i cant help but hope the doctor is wrong..uggh HELP PLEASE !!!!

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KatieGirls2
by KatieB on Jun. 11, 2012 at 11:07 PM
When the time comes and you get to hold that baby in you're arms you won't care a bit momma. You will see that precious face, touch and count those ten tiny fingers and toes, and youwill be in love :)
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eykelley
by Liz on Jun. 11, 2012 at 11:09 PM
Don't worry lol, ur mind will change when u see her. I wanted another boy, this one is 100% a girl lol. I've gotten used to the idea. Especially since I've been SHOPPING!! haha. So much better to shop for a girl, than a boy. :D give urself some time and u'll be good.
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anxiousschk
by Silver Member on Jun. 11, 2012 at 11:12 PM
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Don't stress over the emotions you have right now.   Give it time and start looking at girl things, girl names, etc.

Eventually, you will feel better and even start to get excited about having a girl.    

egrzesik91
by Bronze Member on Jun. 11, 2012 at 11:13 PM

It is normal to be upset and disappointed with the sex of your child at a gender scan. I try to remember that the baby is healthy and praying to get to 40 weeks and be healthy and happy with a decent labor. You will get past the gender eventually and come to love him just as much!

PresleyLove
by Bronze Member on Jun. 11, 2012 at 11:15 PM
Honestly I understand wanting that baby to be everything you dreamed of... But what's more important? Health and development or baseball vs tutu. She can do both :) I did however get my son.. But I lost my last pregnancy.. And as much as I'd love another boy, the health of my baby means the utmost... When your babe is born... Your first reaction is making sure that baby is cryin which will ensure you he/she is healthy and breathing
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naebear
by on Jun. 11, 2012 at 11:17 PM

Maybe its im to stubborn but like i have her name picked out weve done the registry i have alot of clothes for her already i just dunno whats wrong with me i think i might need proffesional help cause i have a horrible thought in my head that ill look at her an be disapponted with her...like i dont like girls never really have and im stuck on praying that shes a boy an its driving me insane cause i dont wanna look at her like that i mean i love her an i love feeling her kick but i still cant help but prey its a boy an i feel like such a horrible person to ever think that about my baby

eneed1566
by on Jun. 12, 2012 at 12:10 AM
You won't be disappointed. Once you hold her you'll love her just the same. My first two were exactly 18 months apart. The whole time I was pregnant, I hated the fact that I felt like I did wrong by my son as I wasn't going to be a big a part of his life during such a critical time in his life by bringing another baby into it. I also loved my son so much, I feared I wouldn't love my second near as much or at all. A dear friend told me this and I think the same applies to you, the fact that you're worried about it shows how much you do already care for this baby. You're worried about how you'll feel towards this baby because you already want this baby to have so much love. It sounds weird I know, but once the time got closer i loved my second so much and couldn't wait to have her and then when I had her I had so much love for her it was unreal. Everything will work out. You'll love this baby regardless if it's a boy or girl. Trust us, it all works out. Good luck, mama!
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rayroe2
by Bronze Member on Jun. 12, 2012 at 12:38 AM

 i feel you pain, you will love the child it may take awhile but at least the baby will be healthy

rozebuud
by on Jun. 12, 2012 at 12:45 AM
I had this same exact thing happen with my first, then one day I just started crying because I bought an outfit for her and all of a sudden I was excited to be having a girl, so don't worry I know exactly how you are feeling right now, you will be a great mama
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chubbybabys
by on Jun. 12, 2012 at 8:06 AM

totally agree with this!!!  It will be the most amazing moment!! 

Quoting KatieGirls2:

When the time comes and you get to hold that baby in you're arms you won't care a bit momma. You will see that precious face, touch and count those ten tiny fingers and toes, and youwill be in love :)


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