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Test results and reactions by medical profession :(

Posted by on Jun. 14, 2012 at 1:14 AM
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A little bit of basic information... I am due to have baby number 5 in december and the pregnancy was a complete suprise and unplanned... I am 42 so am immediatly classed as 'high risk' anyway because of my age alone...

I had a hospital appointment on Tuesday, and the Midwife left me feeling guilty, upset, scared and very angry... I have a 1 in 11 chance of having a child with Down syndrome because the blood test came back positive.. The ultrasound was excellent and the fluid behind the neck was the right amount, so there is no definant diagnoses at the moment...

I was treated as if there has been a diagnosis and was told by the Midwife, to have an amniosentisies, and to terminate... She didnt even say 'if the amnio results come back for DS to terminate'...That i have 4 healthy children already and that given that i am 42, what happens when i am no longer here... She never asked me what i had planned to do, or what my thoughts were, she told me what i should do... Nor did she ask me what my hubby wanted me to do, or his thoughts either...

Hubby and i have decided that we are not going to have a amnio because of the risks, and that we will love our baby regardless... That we are leaving this in Gods hands and will work together and face whatever comes our way...

Medical professionals need to be more aware of how they approach telling a mother they are 'high risk' and give some hope, rather than making a desicion for them based on a blood test result,  even before there is an exact diagnosis...

 

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kcangel63
by Gold Member on Jun. 14, 2012 at 1:16 AM
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Are there any other midwives you could switch to? I love midwives, but I would not return if any midwife/Dr talked to me like that. :(

((HUGS))

You do what you both feel is right!
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nautired
by on Jun. 14, 2012 at 1:17 AM
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Wow I'm sorry that's horrible. I'd suggest changing to someone new.
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wife2jeff
by Joy on Jun. 14, 2012 at 1:18 AM
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Wow. I am speechless. I'm sorry:(
jshalas89
by on Jun. 14, 2012 at 1:26 AM
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What a bitch. I would not have let her get away with telling me that. I'd switch midwives REAL quick, too.
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mommyjenn84
by on Jun. 14, 2012 at 1:30 AM
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Sounds more like a MEDwife than a midwife :( im sorry. Time to look for other care!! Or you're in for an even longer pregnancy than normal.
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cnmnancy
by on Jun. 14, 2012 at 1:31 AM
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I am sorry too. That was very wrong. The test only suggestsa higher chance, which is what you knew already. When you are 18-22 wks, get a level 2 sono to check for heart problems. Aside from that, keep on keeping on!  You might be interested in a site "Be Not Afraid" and also in a book "A special mother is born"

Your baby is perfect for you. God picked you to be his or her mother. You are a good one!

Nancy

1Angeland3Girls
by on Jun. 14, 2012 at 1:35 AM
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Omg, im soo sorry, i would switch, or complain. I hate rude doc, nurses, etc. We are people too, treat us as such! Don't talk to us like your reading a medical journal, with no sympathy.
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KatieGirls2
by on Jun. 14, 2012 at 1:35 AM
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I'm so sorry, that was very unprofessional and insensitive. Hope you are able to get a different doctor...
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pacificamom
by on Jun. 14, 2012 at 1:37 AM


Quoting wife2jeff:

Wow. I am speechless. I'm sorry:(
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1stTiiimeMommy
by on Jun. 14, 2012 at 1:37 AM
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My nieces came back positive and she is healthy as can be. No down syndrome. Stay positive, and switch midwives!!
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