Test results and reactions by medical profession :(
A little bit of basic information... I am due to have baby number 5 in december and the pregnancy was a complete suprise and unplanned... I am 42 so am immediatly classed as 'high risk' anyway because of my age alone...
I had a hospital appointment on Tuesday, and the Midwife left me feeling guilty, upset, scared and very angry... I have a 1 in 11 chance of having a child with Down syndrome because the blood test came back positive.. The ultrasound was excellent and the fluid behind the neck was the right amount, so there is no definant diagnoses at the moment...
I was treated as if there has been a diagnosis and was told by the Midwife, to have an amniosentisies, and to terminate... She didnt even say 'if the amnio results come back for DS to terminate'...That i have 4 healthy children already and that given that i am 42, what happens when i am no longer here... She never asked me what i had planned to do, or what my thoughts were, she told me what i should do... Nor did she ask me what my hubby wanted me to do, or his thoughts either...
Hubby and i have decided that we are not going to have a amnio because of the risks, and that we will love our baby regardless... That we are leaving this in Gods hands and will work together and face whatever comes our way...
Medical professionals need to be more aware of how they approach telling a mother they are 'high risk' and give some hope, rather than making a desicion for them based on a blood test result, even before there is an exact diagnosis...
A) your midwife is an idiot
B) Those test have been wrong in many many cases
C) You will do just fine, your baby will probably be very healthy if none of your other 4 children have had issues. God gave that baby to you for a reason.
D) now you need to tell your midwife to shove off
I'm sorry this happened to you. I would recommend switching because I would not allow a midwife or doctor to talk to me like that. I have had this happen with my endocrinologists and left them because of this. My last one wasn't supportive of my pregnancy and told me I should terminate. There's absolutely nothing wrong with my healthy 9 month old son.
Get a replacement and make sure you tell her why. I would have strangled her on the spot.
Quoting kcangel63:
Are there any other midwives you could switch to? I love midwives, but I would not return if any midwife/Dr talked to me like that. :(
((HUGS))
You do what you both feel is right!
I had a positive to with my second pregnancy and I was only 19 yrs old. I had the ultrasound and everything looked fine. No markings of a baby with DS. I also chose not to have the amniocentesis because it wasn't worth the risk to me .... Our daughter came out fine. She did not have DS but I would have loved her either way. And on another note I had a friend also pregnant at the same time as me ... her test came back neg. and her son was born with DS. You just never know until the birth.
I would change immediately...and, I would send the midwife a letter on your decision to switch from her care and why. (hugs!)
I have a cousin who is 32 with Down Syndrome. My Aunt was only 15 when she had him and let me tell you she did an amazing job with him! I'm only 27, but obviously he's been there my entire life, and my life would not be the same if it wasn't for him! When I went to the doctors last month for my first OB appointment I was asked if there's any mental retardation in the family, I proudly said yes, my cousin Brian has Down Syndrome. We know the gene came from his fathers side so we aren't really worried. She asked me if I wanted the testing for DS I said absolutely not. Nothing that could be wrong with this baby would EVER change how much it is wanted and loved already. My doctor told me that she was proud of me for knowing and standing firm on my opinion....With that ramble aside, you need to do what is best for you and your family. So what if you're 42? My mom was 43 when she had my sister (total unplanned surprise). My doctor also told me that the testing for DS has a high chance of a false positive so why add the additional stress to a pregnancy if it wouldn't change the outcome either way? Either way, congrats on that little bun in the oven! I'm sure it is very loved by everyone already!
How did you keep your pregnancy a secret?
- xxMichellexx
on Jun. 14, 2012 at 1:14 AM