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how to get DF to understand where im coming from ..... going to lamaze class...

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cpra2006

on Jun. 23, 2012 at 7:37 AM

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tomorrow we have an all day lamaze class from 9-5 one of my DFs friends wife went with a friend to this class a few months ago and told my DF that if "you want to be scared out of your mind then go to the class but they will tell you what you need to know the day you deliver" this kinda makes me mad that she would say that to him. i think its totally different since im pregnant and shes not. i feel kinda bad bc she had a misscarage in January but still DF now thinks that tomorrow is gonna be a complete wast of a saturday maybe it will be but this is something i really want to go to since i tend not to speak up and ask questions a lot of the time. anyone else had any problems like this with your SOs ?

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on Jun. 23, 2012 at 7:37 AM

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VanillaBlondie8

Member on Jun. 23, 2012 at 9:57 AM

My DH just started laughing when I told him I scheduled a lamaze class, he knows I'm excited about the baby and want to do everything since it's my 1st (he has another child from his previous marriage), he likes to make me happy so he is going to go with me even though I know he doesn't want to lol... But your right she shouldn't have said anything to your DF she was wrong for that, to me she sounds jealous of your pregnancy since unfortunately she lost her baby so she is being negative about anything that has to do with baby. Don't stress it hun maybe once your DF is there with you he'll enjoy the class. =)

nickigoingon8

Silver Member on Jun. 23, 2012 at 11:42 AM

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I never went to lamaze and I never asked DH to go so nope, but if it is something you want to do I don't see why he would throw a fit about it...suck it up and go!! Good Luck!

PEEK05

Silver Member on Jun. 23, 2012 at 11:50 AM

It was a huge waste for me. My husband wanted to go but after the first day, I didn't want to go back so we didn't. It was dumb.

HopesNDreams

on Jun. 23, 2012 at 4:52 PM

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Mine was a waste...the videos are awful for the fathers to see. I found them unnecessary to the birth as well - the only thing I learned was to comb my hair before the cameras were brought out.

Mrs.Andrews

Mandy on Jun. 23, 2012 at 5:32 PM

No problems here. Although we did birthing classes for our first pregnancy. And they really helped my Husband to be a great coach for my natural labor. But the second time we didn't do classes and my husband totally zoned out and was of no help for my second labor. Which was also epidural free but an emergency induction so I was freaking out without his help.

All that to say, it is really important that your partner know how to coach you and know what to expect. It is also a lot less scary when you are in the moment and you don't have to see everything happening like in the video's. He needs to know what to expect so he doesn't freak and so he can help you. Let him have his opinion as long as he is going with you. He will figure it out.

My advice though. Try to be involved in the class. Ask questions and learn what you are needing to know. You likely won't see those people again but you will need the info so don't hold yourself back.

LaughterHugs

on Jun. 23, 2012 at 10:00 PM

Lamaze are not so useful, but if you try a husband coached childbirth class, the dads tend to be really into it, since the Bradley classes are all about husbands/coaches/partners, and empowering dads to be involved

thorntonwife

Member on Jun. 23, 2012 at 10:02 PM

we went to a birthing class, it helped us :-D.

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Pandapanda

Amber on Jun. 24, 2012 at 12:37 AM

I wouldn't spend my time or money on Lamaze.. it's pretty pointless. I'd go with Birthing From Within or Bradley Method.

Steamedpuddle30

on Jun. 24, 2012 at 12:43 AM

This is me. Lol. No matter what,when it happens(real labor) the "Lamaze lessons" are out the window!

I usually go to my appointments also unless the important ones. I don't feel like letting the dr. Say in front of my Dh,you have another yeast infection. Lol. I'd just go if I wanted to also. I'm not independent in anyway,I just don't like to bother with some stuff. IMO.

Quoting nickigoingon8:

I never went to lamaze and I never asked DH to go so nope, but if it is something you want to do I don't see why he would throw a fit about it...suck it up and go!! Good Luck!

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