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Real Moms Bare Their Postpartum Bellies- do you agree?

Posted by on Jul. 5, 2012 at 4:34 AM
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Real Moms Bare Their Postpartum Bellies

Posted by Deborah Cruz on July 4, 2012 

baby bellyFinally, real women are daring to show the world their real mom bodies. Proclaiming to the world, “I am woman. I am real. Hear me roar!” A group of moms, bloggers at CTWorkingMoms.com, regular moms just like you and I, decided no more. No more accepting the status quo and hiding their post partum body because it didn’t look like the typical celebrity’s post partum body.

There is so much pressure from society to be beautiful and perfect; do we really need to put that pressure on ourselves? We live in a world where there is no forgiveness for imperfection. The status quo is that we strive for beauty at any cost or at least we die trying. Perfect or bust.

I think these moms rock. I could never do what they did. It takes big balls to be a "normal" mom and bare your post baby belly. I wish I could. I won’t lie; I have succumbed to societies peer pressure over the years. My body, like most women, is my sore spot. It’s the one thing that most women are very guarded about, especially after having a baby. That new skin you are in leaves many women feeling vulnerable in a way that only another woman can truly understand.

The simple fact is, in today’s world, we worship perfection. How can we not when the celebrity moms have their rocking pre-baby bodies back within 2 weeks after giving birth? Not to mention the fact that their pre-baby bodies had zero body fat, six-pack abs and well defined muscle throughout. Most celebrity moms are photoshopped and starved into having the bodies of 12-year-old boys. It’s very intimidating and it sets an impossible standard for mothers just as detrimental to women as the waif thin models do for our teens. Honestly, celebrity moms, where does all of your loose skin go? Is there top secret special medical waste plant built just for housing celebrity post-partum skin?

We need to unify as women and show the world that this is what having a baby looks like. The Beyoncé’s of the world are the exception, not the rule. Beyoncé gets to sleep in and has nannies to watch her baby while her trainer whips that post baby body back into shape. We non-celebrity moms have very little free time, even less sleep and usually no help. Its hard work looking your best when you are surviving on coffee, 3 hours of sleep and whatever food you can scavenge in between feedings.

These working moms in Connecticut have the right idea. To do this, we need to stop comparing ourselves to celebrities and stop judging one another. We should be proud of our post baby bodies for what they’ve done. I don’t care if you had your baby two weeks ago, two months ago or two years ago; growing babies is hard work and you should be proud of yourself. Let’s start a movement. Dare to bare those post baby bellies. Mommies of the world unite!

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by on Jul. 5, 2012 at 4:34 AM
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Steamedpuddle30
by on Jul. 5, 2012 at 4:39 AM
No showing my battle wounds. They are top secret! Lol.
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GomezMami2908
by on Jul. 5, 2012 at 4:42 AM
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Ugh...I have a real damn problem with the words 'real women' 

I have had 3 kids, no stretch marks and I was back to my normal self within weeks!! It's not just celebrities, it's us normal folk too that can bounce back...and what is so wrong with that? Since the beginning of my pregnancies I remained active and ate healthy...after the babies I put my jiggly bits in a girdle and remained active, that's how my body got back to normal. Wasn't a state secret.  

You know the bullshit thing here is that if I gathered other women like myself we would be getting bashed to hell instead of praised like these women are. I am not saying that what they are doing it's not awesome and confident but I just hate this argument...the "real" woman argument. 

eykelley
by Liz on Jul. 5, 2012 at 5:14 AM
No judgement here! Some women are blessed that way... Some arent! I wish I had ur talent lol.
My family is probe to horrid stretch marks, and holding the baby weight FOREVER! I had no motivation after DS was born, I regret it now. I will be doing my damnedest to get back after this LO comes. I lost 20lbs right b4 getting PG. I plan to keep going. But, I will always have "battle wounds". My kids stretched my skin horribly and I will always have claw marks, as well as my csec scars. It just came with the job.
:) I would bare them. Hellz yeah!


Quoting GomezMami2908:

Ugh...I have a real damn problem with the words 'real women' 

I have had 3 kids, no stretch marks and I was back to my normal self within weeks!! It's not just celebrities, it's us normal folk too that can bounce back...and what is so wrong with that? Since the beginning of my pregnancies I remained active and ate healthy...after the babies I put my jiggly bits in a girdle and remained active, that's how my body got back to normal. Wasn't a state secret.  

You know the bullshit thing here is that if I gathered other women like myself we would be getting bashed to hell instead of praised like these women are. I am not saying that what they are doing it's not awesome and confident but I just hate this argument...the "real" woman argument. 


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GomezMami2908
by on Jul. 5, 2012 at 5:18 AM

It all rests in our genes, I agree. 

Quoting eykelley:

No judgement here! Some women are blessed that way... Some arent! I wish I had ur talent lol.
My family is probe to horrid stretch marks, and holding the baby weight FOREVER! I had no motivation after DS was born, I regret it now. I will be doing my damnedest to get back after this LO comes. I lost 20lbs right b4 getting PG. I plan to keep going. But, I will always have "battle wounds". My kids stretched my skin horribly and I will always have claw marks, as well as my csec scars. It just came with the job.
:) I would bare them. Hellz yeah!


Quoting GomezMami2908:

Ugh...I have a real damn problem with the words 'real women' 

I have had 3 kids, no stretch marks and I was back to my normal self within weeks!! It's not just celebrities, it's us normal folk too that can bounce back...and what is so wrong with that? Since the beginning of my pregnancies I remained active and ate healthy...after the babies I put my jiggly bits in a girdle and remained active, that's how my body got back to normal. Wasn't a state secret.  

You know the bullshit thing here is that if I gathered other women like myself we would be getting bashed to hell instead of praised like these women are. I am not saying that what they are doing it's not awesome and confident but I just hate this argument...the "real" woman argument. 



Ty_Reann
by on Jul. 5, 2012 at 10:47 AM

It's not "common" or as "normal" for women to bounce back after a pregnancy or multiple pregnancies within days or weeks, barring no sign of a pregnancy (ie: sagged skin, pooched lower abdomen, a few to a lot of stretch marks etc). 

It is considered "common" or "normal" to show some wear on the body after 9/10 months of growing another human. The reason why this is nice to see, is because for those that don't realize the reality of it (due to women not wanting to flaunt a postpartum body unless they bounced right back), they get a bit of a reality check & it's needed. 

Does the fact you bounced back make you less of a real or normal woman? Absolutley not, but you should be able to look past or deeper into that phrase & understand the meaning behind it. 

I bounced back in weeks, did I look fantastic immediately after birth, no. That is "normal" & considered my postpartum body. I then returned back to my body shortly after. 

Quoting GomezMami2908:

Ugh...I have a real damn problem with the words 'real women' 

I have had 3 kids, no stretch marks and I was back to my normal self within weeks!! It's not just celebrities, it's us normal folk too that can bounce back...and what is so wrong with that? Since the beginning of my pregnancies I remained active and ate healthy...after the babies I put my jiggly bits in a girdle and remained active, that's how my body got back to normal. Wasn't a state secret.  

You know the bullshit thing here is that if I gathered other women like myself we would be getting bashed to hell instead of praised like these women are. I am not saying that what they are doing it's not awesome and confident but I just hate this argument...the "real" woman argument. 


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TurtleMomma82
by on Jul. 5, 2012 at 10:55 AM

I wouldn't show off my belly to people.  It's a little saggy after two kids and growing another and I have tons of stretch marks, although they have faded a bit over time to a silvery color.....

But before this baby I fit into a size 8 and hope to again after this one...so it doesn't bother me too much.

mem82
by Ruby Member on Jul. 5, 2012 at 11:02 AM

Eh, I'm not overly interested at looking at anyone's belly. LOL I bounced back fine after baby number one. But, I struggled with the next three. I have a permanent kangaroo pouch. LOL

lifeforchrist
by on Jul. 5, 2012 at 11:11 AM

 Go a generation back and people werent getting stretch marks. Stretch marks aren't a natural part of pregnancy! DIet diet diet is key. In America we eat all the wrong foods so of course your body won't be able to bounce back. If women were more actve, ate more raw whole foods we woudn't even be having this debate. With that said a breastfeeding mother needs a little extra weight but there's no reason to look horrible. Belly flab is dangerous flab and leads to heart problems. So cut the overprocessed grains, get some veggies and watch it melt off. Seriously.

ajb2750
by on Jul. 5, 2012 at 12:01 PM

I hope you do realize though that there are lots of us out there who stayed healthy and active, and came out of it with horrid stretch marks and saggy boobs? I also know lots of moms on the chunky side who came out of it w/ no stretch marks whatsoever. It really has very little to do w/ your diet and everything to do w/ genetics....

Quoting GomezMami2908:

Ugh...I have a real damn problem with the words 'real women' 

I have had 3 kids, no stretch marks and I was back to my normal self within weeks!! It's not just celebrities, it's us normal folk too that can bounce back...and what is so wrong with that? Since the beginning of my pregnancies I remained active and ate healthy...after the babies I put my jiggly bits in a girdle and remained active, that's how my body got back to normal. Wasn't a state secret.  

You know the bullshit thing here is that if I gathered other women like myself we would be getting bashed to hell instead of praised like these women are. I am not saying that what they are doing it's not awesome and confident but I just hate this argument...the "real" woman argument. 


ajb2750
by on Jul. 5, 2012 at 12:04 PM
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Having spent time w/ African tribes I can tell you that everything you wrote is a crock of shit. Women have always battled stretch marks, and not just the fat-guzzling Americans. Stretch marks are age-old and universal. Period.

Quoting lifeforchrist:

 Go a generation back and people werent getting stretch marks. Stretch marks aren't a natural part of pregnancy! DIet diet diet is key. In America we eat all the wrong foods so of course your body won't be able to bounce back. If women were more actve, ate more raw whole foods we woudn't even be having this debate. With that said a breastfeeding mother needs a little extra weight but there's no reason to look horrible. Belly flab is dangerous flab and leads to heart problems. So cut the overprocessed grains, get some veggies and watch it melt off. Seriously.


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