How many of you had or plan on having your mom in the delivery room? I don't want mine in there and it has become a huge dramatic war. First of all, let me give you some backround on my Mom.
From the time I was a kid, I can remember my Mom jumping around from guy to guy. Finaly, she married my "Dad"-- it's actually my youngest brothers Dad, but he adopted me-- when I was about 8 or 9. She was a good mother, always taking care of us, working, making sure we were fed, etc. Then came the divorce. I think I was about 14-ish when they divorced, and my Mom went into a depression. She literally never came out of her room. She slept 24-7. I raised my two younger brothers from that point on. I actually started working when I was 14 and had to pay for everything myself, for bother me and my brothers, because my mother wouldn't work either. She met a guy a few years after the divorce who was a total ass and then she was happy-go-lucky again, but relied on him for income. He left a year or two after that, and back to the same old no-good mother she went. I put myself through college and married when I was 19, then moved to Korea shortly after since my husband was in the Army. My middle brother went down hill when I left. My Mom payed absolutely no attention to him and wouldn't ever buy him clothes, food, etc. He became a drug addict and an alcoholic. I can't tell you how many times he'd tried to kill himself or has OD'd on drugs. I blame my Mom for his issues. My youngest brother had his father to take care of him and buy him things, so he has turned out okay, but he definitely holds anger towards my Mom as well.
Now, can you SEE why I wouldn't want my Mom in the deilvery room? She STILL doesn't work (hasn't in probably 6-8 years at least), only gets out of bed when she has a new man in her life, and puts us kids on the back burner. Yet she is IRATE because she cannot be in the delivery room. I know it probably hurts her feelings....which actually DOES upset me...Ive cried and cried just because I have a big heart and she IS my Mom and I DO love her very much....I'm having my husband and his sister in the room, and she thinks that I favor my inlaws and treat her like crap. I'm being induced in 5 days and I don't want to deal with this drama....I've though about giving in and just letting her be in there but I really think It would just stress me out even more if she were in there!
Just curious as to how many people actually have their mother in the room and if I'm being selfish, or if I have a legit good reason not to let her in there.