need advice please. (this is a repost just letting you know) but i really need advice...
Well i've been so not sure what to do that i havnt gotten back on here... i had a positive urine test but my blood test came back neg... my doc said i came in wayyyyy to early... he also said that because i started having even more discharge (clear oderless sticky kinda like gooey i know TMI i'm sorry) and because i was unprotected twice after the time i went in, he said i had to have been ovulating with one of the times the way it was spaced out... he also said that i need to come back in a month... so i'm going back in mid october... He says i probably am preg and its to early for the blood test but he told me not to think or stress about it... Though with the ovulating factor he said theres at least a 25-30% chance i'm pregnant...
Here's my problem...
I want a baby with all my heart. But the person i've been calling my hubby who isnt legally married to me doesnt... not yet at least... he's talked about abortion and adoption!!!!!! And i'm realizing so much now that theres a good chance i'm pregnant... theres no way he's ready to be a father... and frankly i'm not sure i love him as i thought i did... he's the one who kept pushing to have sex when i didnt want to... he refuses to take what truly means the world to me (like the baby) into account.... i'm leaving him...
So now i'm looking at the single mom route...
The weird part for me is i just feel pregnant... i dont know how to better explain it... i just feel it.... and now i'm getting sick but not to the point of throwing up just a little off balance and headaches... idk if thats really a symptom because i'm not throwing up but if i'm right and i did the math, if i conceived the 2nd time of intercourse i'm a little over 4 weeks pregnant now... though i promised my doc i wouldnt test til i come back in...
i also think i'm a few days to a week late for my period but coming off of seasonique theres no clear definite way to tell...
I dont know waht i'm doing to do, i'm gonna have to start calling him baby daddy not husband because we were never officially married its just what he wanted to do and i thought i was in love but now i'm realizing it was infatuation... I can't do adoption i see abortion as murder, so i'm keeping the baby... i'm going to talk as if i know because i'm just that certain... but does anyone have any advice???
Thanks
Luck Love and Baby Dust to All
Honey calm down first of all. You don't even know you're pregnant yet. I suggest you stop having unprotected sex and wait for your appt to see where to go from there. And when you think you are pregnant a lot of times you can start to have symptoms. Just take good care of yourself and calm down there's not much you can do until you go back and know for sure.
yah i'm off sex for awhile now, i told my obgyn i'd be 100% absitent this month... until i see him again... and i know your right, its just really hard to stay calm...
Quoting nautired:Honey calm down first of all. You don't even know you're pregnant yet. I suggest you stop having unprotected sex and wait for your appt to see where to go from there. And when you think you are pregnant a lot of times you can start to have symptoms. Just take good care of yourself and calm down there's not much you can do until you go back and know for sure.
I would suggest some birth control ASAP as well. Talk with your Dr about the best one for you.
Quoting PinkKisses:yah i'm off sex for awhile now, i told my obgyn i'd be 100% absitent this month... until i see him again... and i know your right, its just really hard to stay calm...
Quoting nautired:Honey calm down first of all. You don't even know you're pregnant yet. I suggest you stop having unprotected sex and wait for your appt to see where to go from there. And when you think you are pregnant a lot of times you can start to have symptoms. Just take good care of yourself and calm down there's not much you can do until you go back and know for sure.
no i agree with you, i'm not doing anything after this to risk getting pregnant, my fear is that i already am... which i hope for and am terrified of at the same time...
Quoting shamillionaire:
As a single mother I highly suggest you stop having un protected sex. As a mother that had her first at 22 I highly suggest you wait. Babies are amazing but they are a lot of work. I am now 31 and wish I would have waited, I have matured in ways that I never thought mattered. But it does. As a 31yr old mother I am far more relaxed, something that matters quite a bit. Live your young life and wait to have a baby. I have given this advice many times and no one listens until AFTER. Then they agree. Well then its to late. I suggest you wait.
I was on seasonique for awhile thats why i dont know 100% about my period... i just came off of it becauswe it was making me sick... i was on antibiotics that canceled it out for 3 weeks and when those stopped i got sick again from the seasonique, he's going to put me on something new i just dont know what yet...
Quoting nautired:I would suggest some birth control ASAP as well. Talk with your Dr about the best one for you.
Quoting PinkKisses:yah i'm off sex for awhile now, i told my obgyn i'd be 100% absitent this month... until i see him again... and i know your right, its just really hard to stay calm...
Quoting nautired:Honey calm down first of all. You don't even know you're pregnant yet. I suggest you stop having unprotected sex and wait for your appt to see where to go from there. And when you think you are pregnant a lot of times you can start to have symptoms. Just take good care of yourself and calm down there's not much you can do until you go back and know for sure.
Quoting PinkKisses:no i agree with you, i'm not doing anything after this to risk getting pregnant, my fear is that i already am... which i hope for and am terrified of at the same time...
Quoting shamillionaire:
As a single mother I highly suggest you stop having un protected sex. As a mother that had her first at 22 I highly suggest you wait. Babies are amazing but they are a lot of work. I am now 31 and wish I would have waited, I have matured in ways that I never thought mattered. But it does. As a 31yr old mother I am far more relaxed, something that matters quite a bit. Live your young life and wait to have a baby. I have given this advice many times and no one listens until AFTER. Then they agree. Well then its to late. I suggest you wait.
TGIF! What are you doing this weekend?
Are you a first time mom? If not, how many kids do you have?
- PinkKisses
on Sep. 23, 2012 at 11:08 AM