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Advice For a First-Time Mom

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Since sharing the news that we are expecting our first bundle of joy, we have received numerous snippets of "advice" from almost everyone that has found out.  The advice has started to consume a lot of our conversations with people and it actually has become quite interesting what some people have shared with us.  I know that pregnancy and especially delivery is a tough thing to go through.  Your body is doing the most amazing thing on this earth - nurturing, growing and aiding in the development of another human being.  The sheer thought of what is actually happening inside my body is mind boggling.  While trying to come to terms with these changes in my life and in my body, I realize that I now have more questions (and am equally more curious) than ever.

Over the years, I have asked many of my friends and family tons of questions while they were pregnant.  I am one that loves to listen to people stories and if I can take any lesson or useful snippet away from them - I feel I am better for it. The one problem with asking (or having so many people willingly "share") information is that you often get conflicting advice.  For example one person shared with us, "DO NOT read ‘What to Expect When You're Expecting'."  Another person was then quick to say, "Make sure you read ‘What to Expect When You're Expecting'!" Our gut (and curiosity) told us read it, so that was one of the first purchases we made when we found out I was expecting.

While all this advice is very information and useful - I am quick to remind myself that every woman is different AND every pregnancy is different.  I find myself praying that my delivery will be as easy as person A and hopefully not as bad as that person B. While we appreciate all of the advice given to us - I have to remind myself that my husband and I are going through this process together.  In the end, we have to do what WE feel is right for us. I know our experience and journey will be our own but it is helpful to know what little bumps to "expect" along the way.  This whole experience is magical and really wonderful and I am SO happy to be along for this ride.

If you could share anything at all about the pregnancy/motherhood/delivery with a first-time mom (me!): What is the one piece of advice you would provide?

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by on Oct. 2, 2012 at 12:00 AM
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by on Oct. 3, 2012 at 9:07 AM

Great advice - but so hard to stick to!  You are 100% right though!

Quoting kellynh:

Don't sweat the small stuff!!!

by on Oct. 3, 2012 at 9:08 AM

I love this simple advice.  Thank you so much for sharing!  Such a refreshing point of view!

Quoting Kmakksmom:

Just remember to take it all in and breathe :)

by on Oct. 3, 2012 at 9:08 AM

I will try my best!  Thank you so much for sharing!

Quoting Kainalu55:

Take a break if you feel you need it!

by on Oct. 3, 2012 at 9:14 AM

Being calm and use the help that is available.

by on Oct. 3, 2012 at 10:32 AM

LOL...which was very good for you

Quoting Rushn311:

Thank you. I was offered it when my daughter was younger but didn't want to burden anyone. I was also 20, so young. When I had my son at 25 I took people's offers. LOL

Quoting sukainah:

This is good advice!

Quoting Rushn311:

Take help when it's offered

by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 12:49 PM

Be thankful in all circumstances and be ready to give up yourself and your agenda 100% completly- but the reward is more then you can ever imagine!

by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 12:56 PM

 Always remember that when people say "You're life will never be the same" you have NO IDEA what that means until you get there. LOL!

by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 12:57 PM

 That's good advice!

Quoting natesmom1228:

Being calm and use the help that is available.


by Mandy on Oct. 5, 2012 at 1:21 PM

Take the time to cherish the moments of pregnancy and your little one as a baby. They really do grow up fast. Keep records of the cute things they say and do as well as milestones. I thought I would remember everything until my second baby was born and I realized I had already forgotten what it was like to hold my first born as a baby.

by Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 2:34 PM

Don't be in a rush to get from one milestone to the next. I read a great article recently about how parents tend to celebrate their kids firsts but it's their lasts that you miss. Last time they smile when they wake up, last time they need you to feed them, last time you cuddle in the middle in the night, bascially you never knew when it's the last time until it's too late.

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