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Enough Love to Go Around

I think the most unique thing about preparing for a baby the second time around was how concerned I was about how the transition would affect my first baby.  My first baby seems like such a big boy most of the time.  He’s running, jumping, climbing and talking a mile a minute.  Other times though, I catch a glimpse of how much he’s still just a baby himself – when he gets hurt and wants me to kiss and make it better or wakes up in the middle of the night and needs to be rocked back to sleep.  He’s lived the entirety of his (admittedly short) life as the center of my attention – how would he adjust?  Honestly, though, I was a little concerned about how I’d do with the transition, too.  

I love this little kid so much I feel like I’m going to explode sometimes – could I really love a second child this much?  I know, I know – everyone says that the love just grows.  Part of me didn’t quite believe it.  It seemed like something parents had to say.  I wanted to clarify, “No, I don’t think you understand…I REALLY love him.  Like A LOT.”  Of course, I know I’m not unique in loving my child – but it’s hard to wrap your mind around every parent loving their child that much.  That’s a lot of love in this world.  It’s really quite beautiful to think about. 

And (spoiler alert for you mamas with only one child) it turns out it’s totally true.  The love does grow.  It doesn’t just grow – it explodes.  There is absolutely no shortage of love.  I won’t lie – it’s hard to juggle attention, time, and meeting everyone’s needs – but the love?  The love is overwhelming and makes all the challenging stuff worth it. 

Were you surprised by the intensity of the love for you child?   

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  • gacgbaker
  • by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 12:55 PM
  • Not surprised by the intensity, but more how to love them, it's much different then I pictured.  

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  • kellynh
  • by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 1:07 PM
  • Yes, it is something you can't comprehend until you hold that baby for the first time. You think you know love, then find out... You never knew it this much!!
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  • Reina13
  • by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 1:27 PM
  • "I love this little kid so much I feel like I’m going to explode sometimes – could I really love a second child this much?  I know, I know – everyone says that the love just grows.  Part of me didn’t quite believe it.  It seemed like something parents had to say. "


    When I read this, I felt as if I was the one writing it. It resonated that deeply.

    There is a 3 year difference between my boys. When I found out I was pregnant with my second son, I was just so worried that I would not be able to love the new baby as much as I loved my son. How could I? Every single ounce of love in my heart went to him. He was my greatest joy and I didn't love anyone as much as I loved him.

    I had no idea that all that worry was an extension of my love for the baby. I was worried about him not having all of me that he deserved. I didnt need to worry. Love really does expand.

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  • Kmakksmom
  • by ~*Stefanie*~ on Oct. 8, 2012 at 1:37 PM
  • Exactly!  I love how you put this.  My mom said the same thing.

    Quoting iluv2read:

     Yes and no. My mom had told me it would be a love like no other, so I was ready for that, but I wasn't ready for how instant that feeling was, or how hard it hit me.


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