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Enough Love to Go Around

I think the most unique thing about preparing for a baby the second time around was how concerned I was about how the transition would affect my first baby.  My first baby seems like such a big boy most of the time.  He’s running, jumping, climbing and talking a mile a minute.  Other times though, I catch a glimpse of how much he’s still just a baby himself – when he gets hurt and wants me to kiss and make it better or wakes up in the middle of the night and needs to be rocked back to sleep.  He’s lived the entirety of his (admittedly short) life as the center of my attention – how would he adjust?  Honestly, though, I was a little concerned about how I’d do with the transition, too.  

I love this little kid so much I feel like I’m going to explode sometimes – could I really love a second child this much?  I know, I know – everyone says that the love just grows.  Part of me didn’t quite believe it.  It seemed like something parents had to say.  I wanted to clarify, “No, I don’t think you understand…I REALLY love him.  Like A LOT.”  Of course, I know I’m not unique in loving my child – but it’s hard to wrap your mind around every parent loving their child that much.  That’s a lot of love in this world.  It’s really quite beautiful to think about. 

And (spoiler alert for you mamas with only one child) it turns out it’s totally true.  The love does grow.  It doesn’t just grow – it explodes.  There is absolutely no shortage of love.  I won’t lie – it’s hard to juggle attention, time, and meeting everyone’s needs – but the love?  The love is overwhelming and makes all the challenging stuff worth it. 

Were you surprised by the intensity of the love for you child?   

by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 12:00 AM
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by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 3:32 PM

 You're right, it does grow.  Amazingly so!  It's like, become a mom and your heart grows 4 sizes (like the Grinch, lol). 

by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 3:33 PM

 OMG, instant is right! 

Quoting iluv2read:

 Yes and no. My mom had told me it would be a love like no other, so I was ready for that, but I wasn't ready for how instant that feeling was, or how hard it hit me.


by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 3:37 PM

I wasn't worried about the love but I was worried about the time and attention.  It turned out fine and my second and then my third just fit nicely into our lives. 

by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 3:42 PM

Yes and no... I mean everyone tells you to expect that and I was really excited to be having our children...  but at the same time, yes, I wasn't expecting it to be nearly as intense as it was!

by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 4:15 PM

Yes, i was worried when I found out I was having a boy. I felt clueless. Of course now I would never change it.

by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 4:32 PM

i wasn't too worried.

by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 4:37 PM

There is just more love to share!

Sue ~ Head Admin
~ D.V. Survivor/Admin

by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 4:38 PM

Yes, very much so.  I never understood about children until I had my own.

by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 4:45 PM

Same here!!

Quoting elasmimi:

Yes, I never thought that kind of love was possible...all encompassing and totally unselfish. I had never even dreamed it could be so intense.

by Emerald Member on Oct. 8, 2012 at 5:46 PM

I alway knew that I would love my children with my whole heart and soul.  They were made through love and are a part of me...I would do anything for them.

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