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How to be a good little girl, per the hospital. I'm not a good girl. *** UPDATE

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UPDATED INFO FOR THOSE WHO HAVE MISREAD **** I never said I know more than my doctor.

I EXPECT informed consent to be a requirement before any procedure, just like any other thing you go to the hospital for. They tell you the options the ones they like, the ones they don't like, risks and benefits and I get to choose. THEY EDUCATE, I CHOOSE.

If anyone wants to go on faith and blindly accept anything they want, that is fine I won't stop you. That is your business. You get your choices, I get mine.

I might wear the stupid hospital gown, but I don't want to be bullied into it. I don't know what I will feel most comfortable in, until I get there. But it is really funny that some think  that bulling is ok in the hospital, but not in school's?


My dr wanted me to go in today to L&D to get an NST because he thinks I am 42 weeks, I think that I am 39 weeks. Late ultrasounds vs LMP. Did NST Thursday, Tues, Thursday, today on Sunday, and then have appt to go back on Tuesday. So we have done this for a while. I don't think they are really needed, I am just going along with some of his wishes. I have told him NO on induction. Just keeping the peace really going along with the NST's.

While at the hospital they give me a pamphlet on how to be a good patient.

Admission. Upon arrival to the childbirth suite you will be INSTRUCTED to change into a hospital gown ... A vaginal exam will be done to see if your cervix is ready for the baby to come.
It says not to worry we are assessing your baby continuously. IE STAY IN BED WITH THE NST MONITORS ON AT ALL TIMES.

You are staying to deliver your baby. IV fluids WILL BE STARTED in your hand or arm. This will help in the prevention of dehydration and/or low blood sugar.

Can I eat or drink? While you are in active labor most physicians WILL ONLY ALLOW clear liquids and ice.

Vaginal Delivery. When your cervix if fully dilated you WILL BE INSTRUCTED to start pushing....If the baby appears healthy and is breathing well, he may be placed on your stomach.

I was asked if I had any instructions for the nursery. I said I didn't plan on my child going to the nursery. THE BABY CAN'T BE IN YOUR ROOM UNLESS SOMEONE IS AWAKE is what I was told. Hubby said I will be here and be awake if she isn't.

I think me being comfortable, wearing what I want because I am not sick, being able to move is going to do more to progress my labor than you hooking me to a useless machine for the duration. Laying on my back in pain not moving isn't going to fly. You might get 20 mins. Might. I sure am not allowing you to start a non medically needed IV, I am giving birth I am not SICK. I will prevent dehydration and low blood sugar the old fashioned way. And I am pretty sure I will know when I need to push. Why do you believe that my cervix is just yours to grope as you please? I mean really the baby is going to come regardless if you check or not. PS you have no rights over my child and where he will be. He needs to come to me immediately. You don't get to tell me how soon I can see him or when I get to have him in my room. He is MINE. He will be with a parent at all times. (he has an umbilical cord and if anything is wrong, you need to leave it intact to allow you time to work on him vs detaching him from his built in life support)

It is silly in this day and age that hospitals think they get to dictate your birth. They use words to make it sound like you have no options. I didn't bother addressing any of this today. No need to start issues early. But Hubby is like wait a min who do they think they are. You can ask, you can suggest, you don't get to demand. Too bad home births are not legal in my state. But after today, Hubby FULLY understands why you would not want to get to the hospital early.




by on Oct. 7, 2012 at 4:15 PM
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bellaamore
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 2:09 PM
These reasons are some of why i had a homebirth.
katzmeow726
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 2:12 PM

Yeah, I would not be going to that  hospital! 


The nursery thing really gets me.  Actually, the one night I asked them to take teh twins to the nursery for the night, I got a comment about how it was better for them to room with me.  But I had not slept in almost 2 days (due to the evil apnea/o2 monitors that went off if they so much as passed gas...) and I really needed some time to deal with what I had been through. I had nearly died from eclampsia, suddenly I went from having no kids, to having two, and I was struggling to breast feed.  I just needed to sleep, and have sometime to think LOL....so a hospital that won't allow room in unless a parent is awake just confuses me!

And I get some of the medical stuff in high risk births.  I had no issue with them requiring me to not eat and being hooked to the monitors and IV.  I was VERY sick, and it saved my life in the end.  But if you're healthy, there is no need for all that mess.  Our bodies know what to do, no need to intervene unless life is in danger if you ask me. 

thalia7758
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 2:24 PM

I would be going to another hospital in your situation. Yikes. On the other hand, if that's the only place nearby or the best place, you can make the best of it. The important thing is that you end up with a healthy baby. :)

gumeshoe
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 2:41 PM

If you go by their plan you probably won't have an option other than getting an epidural. Tie you down, take away your coping mechanisms and see how many have epis that didn't plan on it. I don't cope with pain by laying on my back with an IV causeing my swelling to be worse and CFM that doesn't improve outcomes.

When they make the plan not the parents using informed consent, the hospital should be held responsble for the outcome. If you allow the parents to choose then it is not their fault. Bully and strangle people into doing it your way, then anything is wrong is your fault. EVEN IF THEY SIGNED A CONSENT FORM, it is the hospitals fault in those circumstances.

They don't have to take the baby anywhere to work on him. He has a life support that has worked for 9 months. Cut that and you are making things more difficult for my baby and who ever is working on him.

Quoting Rayawni:

I think that statement more pertains to people who have epidurals And don't have the feeling that its time to push. When moms don't have an epidural I certainly let them tell me what they need. If a baby comes out blue and unresponsive and needs resuscitation, baby can't be put on moms chest. If baby comes out and is vigorous, then yes it's fine to go up on moms chest. Most babies to right to moms tummy unless there is meconium, etc. the problem nowadays is all the litigation hospitals are dealing with so they have to have policies in place to protect themselves. It's sad but true.

Quoting rachelrothchild:

Vaginal Delivery. When your cervix is fully dilated you WILL BE INSTRUCTED to start pushing....If the baby appears healthy and is breathing well, he may be placed on your stomach.

I hate this one the most.  Forced pushing is bad.  They can screw themselves-really.

eye rolling   banging head into wall


CjEmmemommy
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 3:09 PM
And that is why I home birth, ahhh! Good luck, hopefully your nurses are laid back
gumeshoe
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 3:11 PM
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The wording is VERY BAD.  Offered a hospital gown to change into, we warn against eating because you may throw up, (dry heaves are so much better ya know), we want to make sure you are fully dilated before you start pushing. They word it like you should word a birth plan and women word birth plans the way the hospital should have worded this pamphlet.

How many women blow something in their ears from purple pushing and have dizziness issues from then on out? How many have hemorrhoids?

I remember reading about a russian midwife and who amazed a conference of americans because she didn't do a cervix checks, and didn't worry about pushing until you could see a head. IE why russian women don't push at all compared to other countries.

I fully believe that my body knows what to do. It has done fine baking this baby for 9 months, now you want to assume that it is a failure at the beginning. Like there is only one way to do it, there is one time frame to do it in, yada yada. There isn't one way for one woman to go thru several births. None of them will be them same.

Quoting rachelrothchild:

Vaginal Delivery. When your cervix is fully dilated you WILL BE INSTRUCTED to start pushing....If the baby appears healthy and is breathing well, he may be placed on your stomach.

I hate this one the most.  Forced pushing is bad.  They can screw themselves-really.

eye rolling   banging head into wall


Autumn19
by Ruby Member on Oct. 8, 2012 at 3:13 PM

thats how my hospital was i refuse to have anymore children until we move away and i can do it the way i want. they slipped pitocin in both times with out telling me because my labor stalled.

rachelrothchild
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 3:20 PM

Yes, it is.  Matt's aunt ended up with two black eyes pushing like that for like 2 hours, and she never questioned it.  People still feel sorry for her because her son was so "stubborn".  Ugh.

I only pushed when I felt the urge and my body started doing it.

Quoting gumeshoe:

The wording is VERY BAD.  Offered a hospital gown to change into, we warn against eating because you may throw up, (dry heaves are so much better ya know), we want to make sure you are fully dilated before you start pushing. They word it like you should word a birth plan and women word birth plans the way the hospital should have worded this pamphlet.

How many women blow something in their ears from purple pushing and have dizziness issues from then on out? How many have hemorrhoids?

I remember reading about a russian midwife and who amazed a conference of americans because she didn't do a cervix checks, and didn't worry about pushing until you could see a head. IE why russian women don't push at all compared to other countries.

I fully believe that my body knows what to do. It has done fine baking this baby for 9 months, now you want to assume that it is a failure at the beginning. Like there is only one way to do it, there is one time frame to do it in, yada yada. There isn't one way for one woman to go thru several births. None of them will be them same.

Quoting rachelrothchild:

Vaginal Delivery. When your cervix is fully dilated you WILL BE INSTRUCTED to start pushing....If the baby appears healthy and is breathing well, he may be placed on your stomach.

I hate this one the most.  Forced pushing is bad.  They can screw themselves-really.

eye rolling   banging head into wall



gumeshoe
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 3:29 PM

That is why I am not having an IV. You can't sneak drugs in that way. Hubby knows the dangers of having an IV. He knows it is not medically needed, especially when I am already swollen. He has already seen that I have issues moving with the swelling I have (ankles). Any further swelling would be a very bad for me.

He has already been present at a delivery, where he was treated like a 3rd class citizen in the corner taking up space.

Quoting Autumn19:

thats how my hospital was i refuse to have anymore children until we move away and i can do it the way i want. they slipped pitocin in both times with out telling me because my labor stalled.


gumeshoe
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 3:33 PM

Heaven forbid that complete doesn't mean go time. How are you to plan when the doctor should be there?

You would never sit on the toilet straining like that over poop, you would get up walk around, try to get things moving go back try again.

Quoting rachelrothchild:

Yes, it is.  Matt's aunt ended up with two black eyes pushing like that for like 2 hours, and she never questioned it.  People still feel sorry for her because her son was so "stubborn".  Ugh.

I only pushed when I felt the urge and my body started doing it.


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