Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

Pregnancy Pregnancy

How to be a good little girl, per the hospital. I'm not a good girl. *** UPDATE

Posted by   + Show Post

UPDATED INFO FOR THOSE WHO HAVE MISREAD **** I never said I know more than my doctor.

I EXPECT informed consent to be a requirement before any procedure, just like any other thing you go to the hospital for. They tell you the options the ones they like, the ones they don't like, risks and benefits and I get to choose. THEY EDUCATE, I CHOOSE.

If anyone wants to go on faith and blindly accept anything they want, that is fine I won't stop you. That is your business. You get your choices, I get mine.

I might wear the stupid hospital gown, but I don't want to be bullied into it. I don't know what I will feel most comfortable in, until I get there. But it is really funny that some think  that bulling is ok in the hospital, but not in school's?


My dr wanted me to go in today to L&D to get an NST because he thinks I am 42 weeks, I think that I am 39 weeks. Late ultrasounds vs LMP. Did NST Thursday, Tues, Thursday, today on Sunday, and then have appt to go back on Tuesday. So we have done this for a while. I don't think they are really needed, I am just going along with some of his wishes. I have told him NO on induction. Just keeping the peace really going along with the NST's.

While at the hospital they give me a pamphlet on how to be a good patient.

Admission. Upon arrival to the childbirth suite you will be INSTRUCTED to change into a hospital gown ... A vaginal exam will be done to see if your cervix is ready for the baby to come.
It says not to worry we are assessing your baby continuously. IE STAY IN BED WITH THE NST MONITORS ON AT ALL TIMES.

You are staying to deliver your baby. IV fluids WILL BE STARTED in your hand or arm. This will help in the prevention of dehydration and/or low blood sugar.

Can I eat or drink? While you are in active labor most physicians WILL ONLY ALLOW clear liquids and ice.

Vaginal Delivery. When your cervix if fully dilated you WILL BE INSTRUCTED to start pushing....If the baby appears healthy and is breathing well, he may be placed on your stomach.

I was asked if I had any instructions for the nursery. I said I didn't plan on my child going to the nursery. THE BABY CAN'T BE IN YOUR ROOM UNLESS SOMEONE IS AWAKE is what I was told. Hubby said I will be here and be awake if she isn't.

I think me being comfortable, wearing what I want because I am not sick, being able to move is going to do more to progress my labor than you hooking me to a useless machine for the duration. Laying on my back in pain not moving isn't going to fly. You might get 20 mins. Might. I sure am not allowing you to start a non medically needed IV, I am giving birth I am not SICK. I will prevent dehydration and low blood sugar the old fashioned way. And I am pretty sure I will know when I need to push. Why do you believe that my cervix is just yours to grope as you please? I mean really the baby is going to come regardless if you check or not. PS you have no rights over my child and where he will be. He needs to come to me immediately. You don't get to tell me how soon I can see him or when I get to have him in my room. He is MINE. He will be with a parent at all times. (he has an umbilical cord and if anything is wrong, you need to leave it intact to allow you time to work on him vs detaching him from his built in life support)

It is silly in this day and age that hospitals think they get to dictate your birth. They use words to make it sound like you have no options. I didn't bother addressing any of this today. No need to start issues early. But Hubby is like wait a min who do they think they are. You can ask, you can suggest, you don't get to demand. Too bad home births are not legal in my state. But after today, Hubby FULLY understands why you would not want to get to the hospital early.




by on Oct. 7, 2012 at 4:15 PM
Replies (21-30):
gumeshoe
by on Oct. 7, 2012 at 11:41 PM

Also off their website. Says the the epi doesn't get to the baby but the babies heartbeat can be affected. Is that like the dumb game my hubby does with my other son, I'm not hitting you, I'm not hitting you.

  • Epidural block
    • Liquid pain medicine injected near spinal cord
    • Given in small amounts by an anesthesiologist (a doctor who specializes in anesthesia)
    • Does not cross into baby's bloodstream
    • Decreases pain and feeling in your lower body
    • Provides good pain relief and allows you to continue with delivery
    • Can cause headaches and drop in blood pressure, as well as changes in baby's heartbeat
Apollos82
by on Oct. 7, 2012 at 11:44 PM
1 mom liked this
Dude.....I would be giving them what for. No way in HELL any of that would fly with me.
Posted on CafeMom Mobile
gumeshoe
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 12:00 AM
3 moms liked this

I have always been good at swimming upstream. I am much better now at sweetly making you look like an idiot if I have to.

What is the medical reason for needing an IV? What are the risks? I think we need to talk about this, because there is a risk, there is discomfort, there is lack of mobility. What are the alternatives? Do you have someone more comfortable with birth not being a sickness but a natural everyday thing, instead of an assembly line? Oh I won't be able to get "my epi" when I want one. That is the point the thought of something in my back is not something I want to contemplate. Then it will be too late and I will be done. Its like putting the potato chips in plain sight. Best leave temptations away. Hubby is terrified of needles too. So his radar for that sort of stuff will be better than mine.

Nurse will be thinking OMG one of those. And no I will not sign blanket consent forms. I might have a sharpie just for that. I have been hoodwinked in paperwork before, that only cost me money. This is my body and my baby, lots more important.

Quoting Apollos82:

Dude.....I would be giving them what for. No way in HELL any of that would fly with me.


kagegirl
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 7:22 AM
1 mom liked this
Get em momma. With my first,.I let the hospital dictate alit. After that, I got smart. With my ydd, I was barking orders at the nurse and they shut up and did it. With this one, o am going to the same midwives and hospital and they are already ready for me. Good luck telling me anything!!
Posted on CafeMom Mobile
LaughingTattoo
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 7:27 AM
1 mom liked this

Im starting to get ticked myself........ the hospital I HAVE to deliver at (insurance doesnt cover birthing center or midwife..... and next close hospital is 120 iles away) is not natural birth oriented or even friendly. My dr is VERY supportive though. I know Im gonna have a problem with the staff already bc of my birthing plan. I will NOT be induced, I will NOT have drugs, I will NOT lay on my back, I will not have an IV or cathater, and the baby will be with me or dh during EVERYTHING.

Byrd15
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 7:40 AM
1 mom liked this
Wow that's crap! Joey stayed with us regardless of who was asleep or awake.
I loved that. :) As for everything else this time I am going natural so there will be no staying in bed for me. :)
Posted on CafeMom Mobile
gumeshoe
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 7:55 AM
1 mom liked this

Yep already told dr no to induction, he thinks I am 42 weeks. By LMP I will be 40 weeks this thursday. So I doubt his date was correct. He is just a big boy. He won't wear NB clothes. I didn't either, 9lb 2 oz.

Any period related problems I have ever had didn't resolve themselves by me laying on my back, it has always been more I can't sit still for long.

Its funny that legally they have no right to dictate how any woman births, and they can't turn any woman away who is in active labor. They forget that.

Quoting LaughingTattoo:

Im starting to get ticked myself........ the hospital I HAVE to deliver at (insurance doesnt cover birthing center or midwife..... and next close hospital is 120 iles away) is not natural birth oriented or even friendly. My dr is VERY supportive though. I know Im gonna have a problem with the staff already bc of my birthing plan. I will NOT be induced, I will NOT have drugs, I will NOT lay on my back, I will not have an IV or cathater, and the baby will be with me or dh during EVERYTHING.


gumeshoe
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 8:01 AM
1 mom liked this

Was asking hubby what to pack for him, he said that he doesn't want any pj pants. He will be fine in jeans. Um so you don't trust them right. Yeap. Ok. So he will be up if am not not, just because of that. But that will also keep them from doing stupid stuff like let me test your baby for something random without you knowing or consenting to.

Quoting Byrd15:

Wow that's crap! Joey stayed with us regardless of who was asleep or awake.
I loved that. :) As for everything else this time I am going natural so there will be no staying in bed for me. :)


Byrd15
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 8:29 AM

Yeah that wouldnt fly with me, AT ALL!

Quoting gumeshoe:

Was asking hubby what to pack for him, he said that he doesn't want any pj pants. He will be fine in jeans. Um so you don't trust them right. Yeap. Ok. So he will be up if am not not, just because of that. But that will also keep them from doing stupid stuff like let me test your baby for something random without you knowing or consenting to.

Quoting Byrd15:

Wow that's crap! Joey stayed with us regardless of who was asleep or awake.
I loved that. :) As for everything else this time I am going natural so there will be no staying in bed for me. :)



Daisypath Anniversary tickers
Lilypie Second Birthday tickers

Lilypie Maternity tickers

silka08
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 8:33 AM
I would definitely not deliver there. I have 3 kids and have never delivered in a hospital.
Posted on CafeMom Mobile
Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

close Join now to connect to
other members!
Connect with Facebook or Sign Up Using Email

Already Joined? LOG IN