My partner found out at her appointment today that she is having a little boy too! Two little boys will be here with us in February! I am so EXCITED!
My partner and I are both pregnant. We are due two and a half weeks apart, so we will basically be having twins. I am very excited, these will be our first and only children, and I am just here to talk about pregnancy, labor, and find encouragement from other people's inspiriation.
My partner and I basically had an "accidental" pregnancy. Yes I cant help but laugh at the irony of lesbians having an accidental baby, but let me explain. When we decided to try to concieve, we figured that if we both tried it would double our odds of success. We figured once one of us became pregnant, the other would stop TTC and would wait for six or seven months, then TTC again. By the time my pregnancy test was positive, my partner had already done her insemination for the month. The odds of both of us becoming pregnant on the same cycle was approximately 4%, so it really is a miracle that it has happened this way, and I would not change it for anything.
While initially I worried that the two of us being pregnant at the same time would cause a huge hormonal/emotional nightmare in our home, it has effective done just the opposite. We feel more emotionally connected and balanced than ever before. As we go through the various stages of pregnancy we get to share each moment with complete compassion and understanding of what the other person is going through. It really is an amazing process. Something I am sure we will miss here in few short months.
I am just looking to connect with people, people who are experiencing the miracle of life inside them, and who have gone through labor/delivery. I am looking to connect with families who have had experience with twin babies, and are willing to share their multitude of knowledge.
From what our doctors have said, and the fact that there is little to no information for lesbian couples being pregnant together, it isnt common to be in our situation. I have only read of two other couples going through our experience, but I really believe that twin moms are twin moms. Hopefully I will find some parents out there willing to advise us on ways to maintain our sanity through all of this ;-)
l have gone through and read all of the replies so for and I think it is important to address some questions that have been asked a number of times.
First, we used the same donor, it was important for us to have our children be related by blood, as well as love. :-) The entire process was free, we used a website called Known Donor Registry and found a donor that we felt carried traits from both my partner and I.
We plan to breastfeed each other's children. Once my partner returns to work, she plans to pump, and while I am at home with the babies I will bottlefeed one with her milk and nurse the other and alternate which child is nursed at every feeding.
We have a large support system including family and friends. We plan to have the newborn with us while my partner is in labor, although he will probably be with our family, and brought to me every couple of hours for feeding. Although I am not sure at that point I will want that little cutie out of my sight. :-) If my partner goes into labor while I am in labor, our family and friends will be there to help us whenever and however we need.
We both plan to have natural births without medication. The recovery time will be considerably less which will be absolutely necessary for the two of us.
Someone also asked about custody should there be a divorce or death etc. We are registered domestic partners, and in our state that puts us in a very good situation. Custody during a seperation would be treated in the same manner as a divorce, also in our state we will both be listed as parents on our childrens birth certificates. Like married couples we are the "assumed parents" of these children.
We are due February 3rd and February 22nd, I am currently 24 weeks pregnant and my partner is 21 weeks pregnant. :-)
I may have missed some common questions, I am pretty sure somehow someone thought we were having four children? Nope we are just having two sons. :-) I am excited, nervous, and if you havc more in depth questions feel free to ask, either here or message me. :-)