Quoting Oceana09:Depending on what state you live in, you can put whatever last name you wish on the birth certificate. I'm choosing to put my maiden name down (I technically am still married. DH and I have been separated for 3 years and he rufuses to agree to anything on the stupid divorce papers) becuase his father hasn't wanted anything to do with him so WHY would I want to give him his last name?
Quoting mommieof3_91:
For one thing I'm not using my child as a pawn to get my way that was rude and very inconciderate. I was asking for advice not some rude way of calling me a b*tch
Quoting MIA0223:
He is the father, I don't see why he shouldn't be on the BC.
You chose to have a child with a married man.
This child is not a pawn, not a posession of yours. Not something to dangle over his head to get your way.
He is the father, lose the drama and add him on the BC!
I totally agree that he should divorce his wife if he is living with you and in a relationship with you, but whether our not he does that does not change the fact that he is the father of your child. Unfortunately, you guys have gotten yourselves into quite the mess here.
Quoting mommieof3_91:
For one thing I'm not using my child as a pawn to get my way that was rude and very inconciderate. I was asking for advice not some rude way of calling me a b*tch
Quoting MIA0223:
He is the father, I don't see why he shouldn't be on the BC.
You chose to have a child with a married man.
This child is not a pawn, not a posession of yours. Not something to dangle over his head to get your way.
He is the father, lose the drama and add him on the BC!
Quoting MIA0223:
You got advice.
That's my honest advice.
You are using this innocent baby to get what you want.
He is the father isn't he? Why would you not put him as the father.
You knew he was married when you decided to make this baby. Now suddenly that's an issue?
He is the dad, you are wrong to exclude him. Him being married is no reason.
Quoting mommieof3_91:
For one thing I'm not using my child as a pawn to get my way that was rude and very inconciderate. I was asking for advice not some rude way of calling me a b*tch
Quoting MIA0223:
He is the father, I don't see why he shouldn't be on the BC.
You chose to have a child with a married man.
This child is not a pawn, not a posession of yours. Not something to dangle over his head to get your way.
He is the father, lose the drama and add him on the BC!
He's the father. He deserves to be on the birth certificate. I don't mean to sound rude, but you really should have thought about this before getting involved with a married man. I understand your frustration, but he is the father...
Not that I'm aware of. They told me I could leave the daddy part blank and later add it in if he decides to actually take an active roll. But if htat's the case then I figure he can pay for it, since he is the one being such an ass about it. Why should my baby have to suffer because he lied to alot of people and just wants to cover it up.
Quoting mommieof3_91:
I can give the baby my last name I know for sure but I'm not sure if he can legally be on it or not since he is still married
Quoting Oceana09:Depending on what state you live in, you can put whatever last name you wish on the birth certificate. I'm choosing to put my maiden name down (I technically am still married. DH and I have been separated for 3 years and he rufuses to agree to anything on the stupid divorce papers) becuase his father hasn't wanted anything to do with him so WHY would I want to give him his last name?
Quoting mommieof3_91:
For one thing I'm not using my child as a pawn to get my way that was rude and very inconciderate. I was asking for advice not some rude way of calling me a b*tch
Quoting MIA0223:
He is the father, I don't see why he shouldn't be on the BC.
You chose to have a child with a married man.
This child is not a pawn, not a posession of yours. Not something to dangle over his head to get your way.
He is the father, lose the drama and add him on the BC!
Quoting mommieof3_91:
I am in sc which I have been told is a huge mom state and if I would have been married then my legal husband would have to be on the BC I'm just scared as all get out
Quoting nikkifam5:
Well in my state, it doesn't matter if the father signs the BC, because he legally has no rights to the child if you are not married. Child support and custody/visitation are separate cases handled in court... so if that applies in your state, then he legally can be charged with kidnapping since there is no custody arrangment.. so he wouldn't be able to run off with your child. And just because he signs the BC doesn't mean you have to give baby his last name. If he wants to live with the embaressment of having a baby while still married then let him..
Quoting Oceana09:Not that I'm aware of. They told me I could leave the daddy part blank and later add it in if he decides to actually take an active roll. But if htat's the case then I figure he can pay for it, since he is the one being such an ass about it. Why should my baby have to suffer because he lied to alot of people and just wants to cover it up.
Quoting mommieof3_91:
I can give the baby my last name I know for sure but I'm not sure if he can legally be on it or not since he is still married
Quoting Oceana09:Depending on what state you live in, you can put whatever last name you wish on the birth certificate. I'm choosing to put my maiden name down (I technically am still married. DH and I have been separated for 3 years and he rufuses to agree to anything on the stupid divorce papers) becuase his father hasn't wanted anything to do with him so WHY would I want to give him his last name?
Quoting mommieof3_91:
For one thing I'm not using my child as a pawn to get my way that was rude and very inconciderate. I was asking for advice not some rude way of calling me a b*tch
Quoting MIA0223:
He is the father, I don't see why he shouldn't be on the BC.
You chose to have a child with a married man.
This child is not a pawn, not a posession of yours. Not something to dangle over his head to get your way.
He is the father, lose the drama and add him on the BC!
if you dont put him on the certificate, most judges wont award child support, just something to consider
Was your gender feeling right?
- mommieof3_91
on Nov. 15, 2012 at 1:37 PM