Sorry this is long, but I need some advice. I live 6 hours from my family and only get to see them maybe 2-3 times per year, so holidays are very important for me. I've been looking forward to thanksgiving with my family for months. We are scheduled to leave tomorrow.
Well, over a month ago my brother came down with bacterial pneumonia. It was really bad.. there was one day he completely lost from his memory. It took him a long time to recover. He ended up passing the sickness to his wife, my other brother, and my other brother's girlfriend. It was apparently really nasty. My mom told me she was, for once, glad I was not in the area since I am pregnant and have a toddler.
Well, I find out today, the day before I am supposed to leave, that my brother's girlfriend still has full-fledge pneumonia symptoms. She is on strong meds for it, but she is coming to Thanksgiving and is bringing her parents to meet my family for the first time. Also, today, my niece came down with the flu and will be contagious for 48 hours. I am very worried because I don't really want my child around such bad illness and also myself, being 13 weeks pregnant. I've done a little research and pregnant women are much more susceptible to pneumonia - with side effects ranging from hospitalization, to premature birth, to mortality of the pregnant woman. I recently had a miscarriage so I am extra cautious with this baby.
I could just not go, but it's frustrating that I have to stay away because someone else is sick. Also, my mom would be really upset and disappointed if we don't go.. she would probably cry and might even order my brother's girlfriend and her family not to come (which I don't want to be responsible for, especially since she is bringing her parents to thanksgiving to meet my family for the first time).
My friend says to go and just avoid contact with them and wash hands.. but I don't really understand that because we will all be in the same two rooms together for the majority of two days. Also, I am completely out of sick time at work so I would be forced to work through whatever illness I might catch or lose my job.
What should I do? :(