If someone children constantly had scratches, bruises and bloody noses but always offered an excuse before you asked would you be worried that it was neglect or abuse or just think that the children really are that clumsy?
Quoting Trina02:
I personally would be worried about that child. how old is the child, and it is a boy or girl? Just wondering. Also does this kid play alot of sports? For example if its a young boy that plays football , hockey, etc. and maybe you could try to out rule any causes that would be contributing to this but that sounds horrible.
Quoting sparklebug86:
2 boys, 2 1/2 and 18 months. I'm more concerned about the 2 year old. He is always bruised but she always has an excuse. Today he had another busted nose and she says he fell off of his booster seat. I don't doubt that but where was she that this happened? Was he not buckled in? The 18 month old was brought with a black eye and she blamed it on the 2 y/o. This morning she said "they look so bad but they do it to themselves."
Quoting Trina02:
I personally would be worried about that child. how old is the child, and it is a boy or girl? Just wondering. Also does this kid play alot of sports? For example if its a young boy that plays football , hockey, etc. and maybe you could try to out rule any causes that would be contributing to this but that sounds horrible.
it would depend. I speak from expierence. I was (is) an extreamly clumsy child/adult. I always had my reasons for being scratched/brused, but I was also in a house of 4 kids. 2 of us were always fighting at any time. Not to mention I trip over nothing and walls jump out in front of me.... My son plays very rough, mainly with his uncles, and can be so very clumsy himself. If he changes his story, or his story is too 'scripted' then id be concerned.
When my boys were two they always had bumps, bruises and cuts. I can honestly say that it wasn't from me abusing them. They are toddler boys. My guess is that is all it is. I was always taught to look for bruises that are not on the extremities. Little kids have a lot of bruises on the arms, legs and head. It is not normal to have a lot of bruises on the abdomen, back or buttocks.
Where do these boys come from? Do you baby sit them or something? If you're able to spend a bit of time with them, I'm sure you'll be able to tell what's real and what's not. I babysat kids who always had marks on them, no bloody noses but HUGE bruises and things and they even got some when I was watching them. No matter what you do, there are some kids who just play rougher than most and will get hurt. Maybe when mom's not around you can ask the boy. Just say what happened or something, at 2 he can probably give enough of a description to tell you he fell or got abused.
Btw - just in case this is abuse, you need to start taking note of EVERYTHING you see the date and mom's explanation. I hope they're just rough little boys, there's NO reason for abuse on children. They are so defenseless...
How did you keep your pregnancy a secret?
- sparklebug86
on Dec. 11, 2012 at 9:51 AM