So many questions and no anwsers... I really don't get it right now at this point.... Just sad today...
OMG! I am so sad right now and stressed and I feel like I'm crazy for having another kid at this point... Well here goes then with all the stress...
I don't understand why I feel this way at this point but I feel totally stressed out and just sad right now. yeah I know I've had a bad day today and I've been feeling over whelmed for the past week or so... but in the mist of it all I just feel crazy that I am pregnant again right now and I find myself just totally stressing out that I am having another kid, because I find myself thinking, if I'm this stressed out now how stressed am I going to be when the new baby comes... I don't even really feel that excited anymore that I'm pregnant... I've felt this way for over a week now... I feel like a person for feeling this way about this pregnancy... am I a bad mother for feeling this way or is this really common and normal at this point? ( I am only at least 10 weeks along btw)
Also I've realized for weeks that DH acts like he has sympathy pregnancy... he gets sick to his tummy and has even thrown up a couple of times... and he hasn't really been helping out for over two weeks now like he was at frist when we found I was pregnant again... it is starting to get to me and just make me pissed off cuz I am the one that is pregnant and I feel like at times that I should be only adult in this house getting sick as much as he is... Is this really that normal or is it more likely that he's faking or something like that? I just find it odd that he is acting like this now when he wasn't like this with ds... i don't get it... advice please....
Also me and dh have been getting in arguements more often within the past few weeks then we have in over a year... I feel like it's just horemones but I'm not really sure if it is or not... has anyone strugled like this with their dh/so? I mean when we start yelling or argueing at each other it reminds me of how we were back when ds was a baby and it just makes me feel so sad and just well like I felt almost two years ago... I hate it like a lot... what I can I do to help this get better or to lessin the fighting or argueing rather?
Any advice would be appreciated... Thank you in advance ladies...
definately not a bad mom for feeling like this. 99% chance it is your hormones causing all of your stress on this stuff. DHs sympathy sickness may be because he is nervous as well. and a nervous dh with a hormonal wife means fights. all very normal. i dont believe it matters how many pregnancys you go through, or how many kids you have. your feelings, along with dhs feelings, will always be different from the last, but the fights will be there BECAUSE of the rush of new feelings for both of you. just gotta remember it will pass, just like it did with ds, and hopefully your hormones level out some as the pregnancy progresses.
Idk right I really don't... I just hope it gets better with time...
But thank you for reassurance... I appricate it... I really do...
Quoting jesuschild06:definately not a bad mom for feeling like this. 99% chance it is your hormones causing all of your stress on this stuff. DHs sympathy sickness may be because he is nervous as well. and a nervous dh with a hormonal wife means fights. all very normal. i dont believe it matters how many pregnancys you go through, or how many kids you have. your feelings, along with dhs feelings, will always be different from the last, but the fights will be there BECAUSE of the rush of new feelings for both of you. just gotta remember it will pass, just like it did with ds, and hopefully your hormones level out some as the pregnancy progresses.
youre welcome. me and df fought a lot when i first became pregnant. even at almost 23 weeks, we stil fight, but not anything like we were. hes excited now, and im less hormonal. (i also was very scared on having a baby. i didnt become really excited until 18weeks. i had spurts where i was before then, but it was rare. i faked excitement a lot. i just didnt know how we were gonna do it. especially when his dfs hours were cut in half unexpectedly. but it does get better.)
Quoting Sun_Shine_990:
thank you for the reassurance momma... I am almost sertain that the fights are because of my horemorns but I still feel really stressed cuz I feel like I have so much going rignt now and all I can think is well man it's going to get worse before I know it and i find myself wandering how I'm going to mange when the knew baby comes. I'm sure it'll come with time but right now I just don't see it. Ya know...
Idk right I really don't... I just hope it gets better with time...
But thank you for reassurance... I appricate it... I really do...
Quoting jesuschild06:definately not a bad mom for feeling like this. 99% chance it is your hormones causing all of your stress on this stuff. DHs sympathy sickness may be because he is nervous as well. and a nervous dh with a hormonal wife means fights. all very normal. i dont believe it matters how many pregnancys you go through, or how many kids you have. your feelings, along with dhs feelings, will always be different from the last, but the fights will be there BECAUSE of the rush of new feelings for both of you. just gotta remember it will pass, just like it did with ds, and hopefully your hormones level out some as the pregnancy progresses.
I am sure it is the hormones. When I was pregnant the first time I went totally crazy on my husband. We were engaged at the time and I gave him his ring back and everything! LOL. I was about 11 weeks then. It was crazy. I would just talk to him calmy and apologize in advance for any silly arguements but ask that he be understanding. Also, it is flu season, maybe he really had a bug and wasn't doing the whole sympathy pregnancy biz..
Quoting avaana06:I am sure it is the hormones. When I was pregnant the first time I went totally crazy on my husband. We were engaged at the time and I gave him his ring back and everything! LOL. I was about 11 weeks then. It was crazy. I would just talk to him calmy and apologize in advance for any silly arguements but ask that he be understanding. Also, it is flu season, maybe he really had a bug and wasn't doing the whole sympathy pregnancy biz..
I feel the same about being overwhelmed and pregnant again (ds is only 1!). I sometimes get jealous of dh for having so much personal time. He didn't realize it til I told him the other day. I've pretty much turned house cleaning into a family thing. Had to ask and delegate. It's the only way I can get it worked on.
Quoting BrittsJade:
I couldn't stand the sight of my boyfriend up until maybe 13 weeks or so. I feel bad about it thinking back on it:/
How did you keep your pregnancy a secret?
- Sun_Shine_990
on Jan. 18, 2013 at 9:18 PM