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Some reasons not to circumcise

Posted by on Jan. 20, 2013 at 3:38 PM
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Once it is gone, it is gone.  So be careful when making this decision for your boy.  

Circumcision forever changes the male body - for the worse.  See this page for the difference between intact and circumcised:
http://www.drmomma.org/2011/08/intact-or-circumcised-significant.html 

Cleanliness and care: Not circumcising is easier 
Regarding cleanliness, there is a lot of bad information. I'd recommend you read an anti circumcision site's rebuttal of the claim that circumcising makes the penis cleaner:
http://www.circumstitions.com/Mayo.html 
Smegma is normal, women have it too and it is beneficial. It keeps things moist and is harmless: 
http://www.circumstitions.com/Clean.html 
You should be aware of circumcision complications also. The serious ones such as death or a dead penis (pic: http://www.circumcisionquotes.com/images/slide14.jpg ) although rare, can happen. 
Care is a lot easier for an intact baby. The American Academy of Pediatrics gives advice on how to care for a penis that isn't circumcised. It isn't great advice though because the intact penis really doesn't require any care. Here is a critical appraisal of the AAP's advice from an anti-circumcision site: 
http://www.circumstitions.com/AAP-care.html 
So if you choose not to have your baby circumcised, just leave the penis alone. Just wash the outside like all other body parts. The foreskin is attached to the head of the penis in early life and doesn't become retractable until later, so just leave it alone. There is nothing to do really. 

Care for circumcised penises is actually harder. There is an open wound to be aware of. This is obviously more prone to infection. 
There are also the complications. I would recommend you download this PDF file to see the graphic illustration of what actually happens to your baby during circ and the complications that can occur: 
http://www.coloradonocirc.org/files/handouts/Circumcision_Techniques_and_Complications.pdf 
Also see this page: 
http://www.catholicsagainstcircumcision.org/cac_complications.htm  

There is also the psychological and emotional effects of being ripped away from your mother and being put in pain just shortly after your child is born. There will also be discomfort for a long time afterwards as the wound is healing. So it will obviously affect the bonding process. Is this really the best start for a young man? Wouldn't your little son be better off starting off in a more positive light? Don't you just want to take him home and love him? 
See this study for the traumatic effect circumcising has on a boy and how it affects the bonding process with his mother, including breastfeeding:http://www.cirp.org/library/psych/goldman1/ 
See this site for regret stories from mother who circumcised: 
http://www.circumcision.org/mothers.htm 
So if you want an easier life, the best option is not to circ. 

The negative sexual effects 
If you don't know what a normal intact penis looks like then see this page for a graphic illustration of what the foreskin looks like and its role in sex: 
http://www.circumstitions.com/completeman/  (contains pic of penis)
The foreskin is the most sensitive part of the penis. Men get pleasure by moving the foreskin up and down. This tugs on the frenulum. 
Intact boys and men find it easier to masturbate because all they have to do is move the foreskin up and down. Circumcised boys and men have to resort to artificial lubrication or else they can make the penis sore from friction or damage it by putting too much pressure on it. 
The foreskin also helps women. It makes it more comfortable during sex because the gliding motion reduces friction and helps maintain moisture in the vagina, preventing dryness. The rhythm of the man's thrust is is different too.  He is more sensitive, and his penis is less hardened so he doesn't jab as hard and is more sensuous. See this site:
http://www.sexasnatureintendedit.com/  (contains pic of penis)

Health concerns - is my baby at a health risk of If I don't circ? Will I have to worry? 
The answer is no. Most men in the world aren't circed. The circ rate in Britain France Ireland Germany and Canada and Australia is less than 10%. It is a dying practice. The most recent statistic for the USA is that around 60% are circumcised. It is coming down all the time. So it is around half and half. 
No medical association recommends circumcising - merely leaving up to the parents to decide. If you asked most informed doctors they would tell you not to do it. I'd recommend you read this site to see how it got started - basically to reduce masturbation by taking away the most pleasurable part of the penis and the part that moves: 
http://www.historyofcircumcision.net/ 
Won't it have to be done later?  I hear stories of it having to be done later?  A lot of the time it didn't have to be done.  Remember, doctors get paid to do these operations.  Most intact men never get infections in their whole lifetime.  If they do, it is easily cleared up with antibiotics.
The American Academy of Pediatrics review on the pros and cons of newborn circumcision was done in 1999. You can read the AAP's review on circumcision along with an annotated critique here 
http://www.circumstitions.com/AAP-ana.html 
The best way to prevent STI's is condoms and not sleeping with prostitutes. As for cleanliness and urinary tract infections, they are easily treated with anti-biotics and are rare anyway. The idea that uncircumcised boys get more infections than circumcised boys is false. See this study: 
http://www.cirp.org/library/complications/vanhowe/ 
So your child is in no health danger if he is not circumcised. See a critique of the most recent AAP policy statement:
by on Jan. 20, 2013 at 3:38 PM
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RedheadMama18
by on Jan. 20, 2013 at 3:48 PM
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We already decided we aren't circumcising our son.  After doing research and talking to friends who have circumcised and not circumcised we decided to just leave him the way he is.

doulala
by Emerald Member on Jan. 20, 2013 at 4:26 PM
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Thanks for sharing--

  I am all for health and safety first priorities!!
So intact-supporting mama here!
:-)



tigerlil97
by on Jan. 20, 2013 at 4:42 PM
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My husband is strongly against circumcision, and I'm happy to support him on this.
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avaana06
by on Jan. 20, 2013 at 5:11 PM

Learn something new every day. I only have girls right now, so circumcision has never been a thought in my mind.

Christine_T
by Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 12:06 AM
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Quoting RedheadMama18:

We already decided we aren't circumcising our son.  After doing research and talking to friends who have circumcised and not circumcised we decided to just leave him the way he is.


Good for you. 

Christine_T
by Member on Jan. 21, 2013 at 11:31 PM
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Quoting tigerlil97:

My husband is strongly against circumcision, and I'm happy to support him on this.


A lot of dads who are circumcised are for circumcision because of their ego and other psychological reasons.  Here is an interesting article:

http://www.udonet.com/circumcision/vincent/vulnerability_of_men.html

muchlovedby4
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 10:42 AM
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Thank you soooo much OP!!! I've decided against circumcising now, since i read your research. I can't believe i put ds1 thru that!!! I feel like a horrible mom now!! :(

I guess the drs really don't care if you're properly informed or not... With ds1, i asked how they did the procedure and they said they just "simply stretch the foreskin and snip it off". I asked about pain medication and remember specifically being told he wouldn't be given any because "he really won't need it- it doesn't even hurt them but a moment". I had NO idea!!

Now that i know what i put my son thru, i can't believe i did that!! Grrr! I'm so angry at myself! You live, you learn tho- i can't turn back time. But i can damn sure make sure it doesn't happen again.

Thanks, momma!!!! I owe you one.
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1wildchild
by Gold Member on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:11 AM
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We decided not to circumcise DS1 even though DH is. We saw no medical reason to do so. So far we haven't had any issues with DS being intact. Since you're not supposed to force the skin back over the head until it separates on it's own, it is no harder to clean than wiping a finger... DS2 will not be circumcised either.
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louzannalady
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:54 AM
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Great info!

mrsjackson0329
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 11:55 AM
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I don't see what the big deal is. I had my son circumsised and he is just fine. It is the parents choice whether to do it or not and my husband and myself wanted it done so don't run people like myself who wanted that for their son down we made the choice and you can make yours. 

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