Our sex life has pretty much stopped. I'm 23 weeks now. He's irritated but understands I just don't want it. It HURTS!!!!!!!!
Tell him that it's a side effect of pregnancy and he'll have to suck it up and jack off. You are the one going through everything, lack of sex won't freaking kill him.
I think it's ridiculous that he's angry with you for something that is normal, especially in the beginning of pregnancy. You may get your sex drive back when you're more into the 2nd trimester or you may not get it back until after you have the baby. I've never dealt with anything like that though, my husband has always been very supportive.
I agree. Rob wouldn't get angry over something like that. LOL Maybe a little pouty but nothing serious. We'd probably laugh about it.
Quoting JadeTigr7:I think it's ridiculous that he's angry with you for something that is normal, especially in the beginning of pregnancy. You may get your sex drive back when you're more into the 2nd trimester or you may not get it back until after you have the baby. I've never dealt with anything like that though, my husband has always been very supportive.
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i am in exactly the same situation! totally not interested in sex but i know it will cause friction in our marriage if the sex stops completely. I try to get into once a week. It's not always easy, and i'm totally not advocating that you do ANYTHING that you're not comfortable doing! if/when you DO have sex, is it enjoyable for you? in my case, i'm never in the mood, but once it's actually happening, i enjoy it. I also feel like it's a vicious cycle: you don't really want to, he gets mad which makes you unhappy which in turn makes you want it even less..... try connecting on other levels more frequently. hold hands, kiss, hug. touch a lot. maybe do something new and fun together to get that excitement pumping :) good luck!
Yes, this is happening with us too. we still do it on the weekends, but during the week I am dead tired and dont want to. It bothers my husband because he says once we have some good sex it makes him want it more and he feels like I am not into him if we dont do it. Well, I just continue to explain that I am tired, it is the last thing on my mind at bed time and if he wants a chance he better rub my back, hug me, cuddle with me, etc. We just had this conversation today!
It's normal to lose your sex drive in pregnancy. It's not ok for him to be very angry with you for it. You need to talk to him about how you feel, and he needs to hear you. If that doesn't work, you guys could probably benefit from marriage counseling.
ive lost my desire too, but usually just let DH have his way and be satisfied. I feel like he shouldnt have to suffer just because im too tired or something.
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