Quoting hplesha:I did with my first one. I was 18 then. My family judged me until i had him. Probably because they didn't think i was ready. He was an accident, but it worked out for the best. My second one, my mom was unsure at first, but we told her and everyone else to be happy because we planned him. Definitely a better experience.
I have received a little judgement as well. I was dating the baby's father for only 6 months when we found out we were pregnant, my parent's hadn't even met him yet. They were married at the age of 19 because that is when they got pregnant with me, and thankfully, they are still together. So, they thought I should do the same thing. I told them no. I stood my ground. In fact, the pregnancy tore baby daddy and I apart instead of bringing us together, so we aren't even dating anymore. I have my place, he has his. He does pay for half of everything and we are planning to do a every other weekend schedule once Jackson is old enough. I am 28, have had the same job for 8 years, have my own place, car, etc....so I don't think I deserve the judgement, but people will talk!!! I guess I'd rather co parent than force something that just isn't there right now. Once Jackson is here, things may chance, you never know, but this works for now :)
My husband and I were judged on our first. We knew we'd probably get pregnant with our son when we chose to have sex (we weren't even really dating, but had been together pretty much since I was 15 anyways and I was 21 then). His parents especially didn't think we'd be able to handle being parents. We were judged again when we got pregnant soon after we'd had our first, he was only 7 months old.Then we were looked down on for having a 3rd baby, because we already had a boy and a girl, why would we want more. Our 4th wasn't as bad, she was pretty much expected. We had disaprovement when we announced our 5th, again, mostly from my husband's side of the family, but she is very much wanted by us, and my side. My husband's family has become more accepting since we announced it though, because really, what can they do? We want a large family, and we're going to do it even if they don't like it. We don't ask them to raise our kids, or for money, we take care of our own kids. :)
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