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2nd Miscarriage

Posted by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 4:42 PM
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I am new to this website and I came here hoping I could find a little comfort.

I had my 1st miscarriage in February of last year at  8 weeks and I just had my 2nd miscarriage yesterday at 8 weeks. Although I say 8 weeks, my doctor believes each baby quit developing in earlier weeks, since my miscarriages happened rather quickly and didn't hurt that bad, they both just happened to have occurred at 8 weeks.

I know so many people having babies in their lives right now and although I'm happy for them, I can't help but feel jealous and sad because of how bad my husband and I want it and the wait is horrible.

Then again, there are so many women I have read about who have had numerous miscarriages and finally received their blessing -- and these women give me a lot of hope.

My husband and I are going to see a specialist on February 22, hopefully their will be a silver lining in our future.

by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 4:42 PM
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xLilBit22
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 4:46 PM
Ive had 3mc and each sucked. All early on. After my 3rd one is when i got tests done. And ive been put on high dose folic acid, b6, b12 10months later here i am bout to be 17wk pregnant. It can happen. My friends mother had 8mc before she had her 2kids.
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Pandapanda
by Cafe Panda on Feb. 5, 2013 at 4:51 PM

I had a similiar experience- a suspected miscarriage around 6 weeks. My period was late and we were on our way to the airport and had stopped at a gas station to use the bathroom. I sat down and I just poured blood. Again last year, in May, I had gotten a faint positive and started bleeding within hours and bled for weeks upon weeks. It was very emotionally traumatic, but not very painful physically. 

Have you considered a therapist or support group to help with the negative feelings? It does help to have the understanding of other women who have gone through it. 

I have many friends who have experienced multiple losses and then gone on to have children. Nothing is ever certain, we just have to keep some faith and count the blessings we already have.

Kennadismom
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 4:58 PM
I've only had one, at 6 weeks and it was terrible. I don't care what anyone says no matter how early it happens it hurts. When I had mine I was more scared than anything. There's a group on here miscarriage and pregnancy loss support. They helped me so much. You may want to ook into that group for extra support. I'm so sorry you've gone through this. Good luck to you with any future pregnancies.
sj3starz
by Bronze Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 4:59 PM
There's a group on this website that's specifically for miscarriage! That might be a good place to start.
I'm sorry that you are dealing with another loss, I have a friend who just lost her unborn at 11 gestation. :-(

I hope you can find closure.

Do the doctors have an idea as to why you keep miscarrying?
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TrabysMommmy
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 5:01 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss..

~Laura

kimmie3577
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 5:07 PM

my mom had two miscarriages then she had my brother then two years later she had me.... dont give up you too will have a lil one dont loose faith

Raeann11
by Platinum Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 5:09 PM

I am sorry about your losses. I have had three miscarriages one with my first and then our last two in the last 6 months. It is hard to see everyone else getting pregnant and having baby's. I to am happy for them but it really hurts deep down.

I think if we could openly talk about it. It would help us heal more and understand more. We are not alone.

We are currently taking a break to heal mentally and physically from our two loses. I did see my Dr and well there are so many what ifs. So hopefully in the future we will be able to have another blessing.

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