Hello!
I'm about 35 weeks pregnant with out first kid. I'm just feeling so emotionally and physically drained. My pregnancy itself has been pretty easy, no scares or worries, but my life on the other hand is all over the place, and I'm just soooo done. I am so hoping after he arrives I will feel so much better.
My mom was diagnosed with Colon cancer shortly after my husband and I discovered we were expecting, so our happiness was, short lived per say. I'm a momma's girl so I worry about her constantly, and I know *worry* and stress isn't good, but I try not to, but she's always on my mind. They recently stopped her chemotherapy after noticing something was up with her liver enzymes, she had a CT scan, and they've noticed a spot on her liver. She had some more tests to see if the cancer had spread, however the DRs are confident it may just be some sort of fatty build-up due to the chemotherapy. She's also had some allergic reactions to her drug. I want to stay positive, but it's just harrrrd! We won't know anything until the 12th of this month.
Shortly after that my dog delivered puppies, everything was great until we took them to get their first round of shots. Within 24hrs, all 6 puppies had contracted parvo. Vet was confused and they all stayed at the vet for 7 days. All but one passed away. We had no plans to keep any of the puppies, but Annie is still with us today. With all the crying and late nights I couldn't bare to get rid of her. Not to mention the vet bill.
After the puppies, our emergancy money was drained, and I began to worry about that, but we were fine and moved on. I haven't worked since April of last year, and hubby didn't want me to go back to work until after son was born. It made sense to me, I didn't know anyone who would hire someone who was pregnant anyway.
Finally some smooth sailing for a few months, and things calm down. I start to enjoy being pregnant and FINALLY let myself get excited about the future. Hubby & I had no plans to have kids, but now that is happened we are more than extatic to welcome baby "L" (we aren't revealing the name until birth) to the world in March. But boy did that not last long. The company my husband works at filed for Bankruptsy, and everyone's hours were cut. He was working 40-50 hours a week, and now it's down to 20 *IF* he's lucky. For instance last week he got 28 hrs, and the week before only 10. I made a tough decesion and went back to work with 8 weeks to go in my pregnancy. The place I worked last April was more than happy to hire me. I only work part time, 3-4 days a week for about 6 hrs each day, but I'm hoping it will help until my husband's hours go back to normal or he finds another job. He has already put in applications else where in case the company falls (although they have made promises it won't and told employee's not to worry) How can I not?
Because of all the stress and money issues we've had recently we don't have much for the baby yet. But people are telling me not to worry, just wait for the baby shower.
I've also gained 45lbs the entire pregnancy. With 5 weeks left I'm hoping I don't gain too much more, but, with all this going on I don't know. * Part of this I think may be weight from recent weight loss coming pack. Jan-June of last year my husband was gone for the National Guard. I lost approx 20lbs. I was 150 when he left, and 130 when he returned. I kept the weight off until I got pregnant. I was 130 PP, and now weight 173-4.
I guess, I'm just tired and stressed out. I wish I could just fall asleep and wake-up when it's over. I would rather stress about the baby than everything else, but I just can't seem to help it.
Any advice or ideas about what I could do to find some stress relief and relax in the next few weeks before baby arrives?
((HUGS)) Stay strong. Something good will happen soon.
MY DH lost his job not to long after I found out we were expecting and things are finally looking up for us. Granted its not what you have been through but its a little insight that things good can happen after the bad.
Quoting KristinaRusso:((HUGS)) Stay strong. Something good will happen soon.
MY DH lost his job not to long after I found out we were expecting and things are finally looking up for us. Granted its not what you have been through but its a little insight that things good can happen after the bad.
I try, it's just really tough. I hate seeing other people go through things like this, let alone myself and my husband. I try to be a positive person, but after all this, I'm constantly thinking "What's next??" I feel like every little ray of sunshine we get is covered up by a million more clouds. I just have to keep thinking a few more weeks!
Welcome to the group and congrats! I'm sorry to hear it has been so rough. And especially sorry about your Mom. I'll be praying for her.
Babies are really less expensive than everyone makes it out to be. Especially if you breastfeed and use cloth diapers. Plus you don't have to have everything for baby all at once. Just a car seat, place to sleep, diapers, and some clothes. You don't have to buy a crib or other nursery furniture, You can get a play pen or co-sleep. It will all work out. You can also get a lot of stuff from second hand stores, craigslist, and hand me downs from friends and family.
It sounds to me like the biggest stresses are the job and your Mom. And it's understandable to be having a hard time with those things. But what are you wanting to be over? The rest of the process of getting baby here doesn't have to be stressful. Just go with the flow, and take it easy when you can.
Take lots of warm baths, nap when you can, take the time to cuddle and visit with your husband. Go for walks together. Things like that to ease the stress.
Like pp said babies are not as expensive as people make them out to be. Yes waiting for the baby shower will take tons of stress off of you. I didn't go shopping for baby till after mine. Once the shower had come and gone I realized I had gotten so much more than I needed. It worked out. My pregnancy with ds was really hard on me emotionally as well so I can sympathize with ya.
Pregnancy heightens everything even emotion. It makes stress so much worse. I do feel like when baby is born and your hormones level back out you will be able to breathe easier. Im sure the unknown really adds to the stress, bit I promise when that baby comes everything will fall into place perfectly. I know that sounds crazy I thought the same when my friend told me that. Its true though.
To relax take warm baths. Get some exercise. Meditate. Just sit alone and talk to your baby. Cry it out while you talk to him. Its ok and a good cry is good for anyone. Put up your feet and watch a good movie. That hour and a half or two hrs will get your mind off of things. Sleep in one day. Just ridiculously late, put your phone on silent and call it a night.
I hope you feel better and ill say a prayer for your mama.
Quoting Mrs.Andrews:Welcome to the group and congrats! I'm sorry to hear it has been so rough. And especially sorry about your Mom. I'll be praying for her.
Babies are really less expensive than everyone makes it out to be. Especially if you breastfeed and use cloth diapers. Plus you don't have to have everything for baby all at once. Just a car seat, place to sleep, diapers, and some clothes. You don't have to buy a crib or other nursery furniture, You can get a play pen or co-sleep. It will all work out. You can also get a lot of stuff from second hand stores, craigslist, and hand me downs from friends and family.
It sounds to me like the biggest stresses are the job and your Mom. And it's understandable to be having a hard time with those things. But what are you wanting to be over? The rest of the process of getting baby here doesn't have to be stressful. Just go with the flow, and take it easy when you can.
Take lots of warm baths, nap when you can, take the time to cuddle and visit with your husband. Go for walks together. Things like that to ease the stress.
Thank you!
I realize that, and it does calm me down. I just worry since, it isn't my life or my husband's but someone else's future/health we have to worry about when he gets here. My grandma is giving me a bassenet that my mother, she slept and my granny all slept in. We've set aside buying the crib and anything extra we don't get at the baby shower until our taxes come. We're only getting about $600, but I think it should do nice to set us up with the rest of what we need. I've also been watching Craigslist & a yard sale/resale group on FB near my area, but I swear it feels like anything is girl girl girl! lol
Essentially I'd just like the pregnancy to be over, and L to be here. I am feeling like if I'm focused on him, I may not stress about everything else so much. Although I feel my stresses are valid things to stress over I suppose.
Quoting Xanbuttsmom:
Im sorry things are so rough on you right now. I swear when it rains it pours.
Like pp said babies are not as expensive as people make them out to be. Yes waiting for the baby shower will take tons of stress off of you. I didn't go shopping for baby till after mine. Once the shower had come and gone I realized I had gotten so much more than I needed. It worked out. My pregnancy with ds was really hard on me emotionally as well so I can sympathize with ya.
Pregnancy heightens everything even emotion. It makes stress so much worse. I do feel like when baby is born and your hormones level back out you will be able to breathe easier. Im sure the unknown really adds to the stress, bit I promise when that baby comes everything will fall into place perfectly. I know that sounds crazy I thought the same when my friend told me that. Its true though.
To relax take warm baths. Get some exercise. Meditate. Just sit alone and talk to your baby. Cry it out while you talk to him. Its ok and a good cry is good for anyone. Put up your feet and watch a good movie. That hour and a half or two hrs will get your mind off of things. Sleep in one day. Just ridiculously late, put your phone on silent and call it a night.
I hope you feel better and ill say a prayer for your mama.
Oh I definately feel like if my hormones were back to normal I could relax some more as well. I also think I've reached the stage where I'm worried about L&D, but we'll get there when it happens I suppose. My husband doesn't worry about anything. Which drives me nuts, he always says "It'll be ok." Which irritates me sometimes, but all in all it is probably a good thing. I'm hoping when he arrives things do fall into place and the focus will be on him, not everything around me that stresses me out, but we'll see. I can be a bit of a worrier. I cry sometimes, but surprisingly not as often now that I'm pregnant than I did before hand. Weird I know.
I gained 60lbs each time. No matter how much you diet, you're going to gain whatever your body needs to gain. Don't worry about it.
As far as baby things.. the only things you NEED are a car seat, clothes, and diapers. That's it. You have breasts and you have a bed to share with the baby. :) It's all going to be just fine!
(((hugs))) I'm sorry to hear things have been so hectic, it seems to be the way things work =0( Hopefully things will ease up, with everything, and you can enjoy the remainder of your pregnancy.
Did you have any problems getting the weight off after baby was born?
I want to be more active soon as he is here. I've already decided I'm going to talk him on walks daily as long as weather permits. (push him in the stroller). I'm just so tired right now I feel like in dragging myself to get out of bed lol
Quoting Pandapanda:I gained 60lbs each time. No matter how much you diet, you're going to gain whatever your body needs to gain. Don't worry about it.
As far as baby things.. the only things you NEED are a car seat, clothes, and diapers. That's it. You have breasts and you have a bed to share with the baby. :) It's all going to be just fine!
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on Feb. 6, 2013 at 11:27 AM