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Anencephaly- The worst news we have ever had.

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UPDATE 3/13

Baby is doing well inside there. He is very active. I have another US on the 21st to check on my fluid levels. VERY active baby. I am doing okay just a rough rut emotionally. We have decided to carry to term so that we can say our goodbyes. We will cremate as well. I am happy that we decided to carry and we can say goodbye and be at peace with it. I am still coming to terms with the fact that we will not be coming home with a baby. =[



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I went in to my doc today for a regular OB appt. She was great then talked to me and asked if I would like to have the early US for down syndrome.I said sure! I was able to get into the US immediately. I found out the most devastating news I have ever heard.

My baby has no brain. My baby will not live. I have the option to terminate or have complications with pregnancy later or..possible hemorrhage durring birth and as soon as I go into labor my baby will die. The correct term for this is Anencephaly. We are going on the 13th to get the process started. I feel dead inside.


ETA- I am going Monday to another specialist to "be sure" but we already know after seeing 2 docs that this is what is going on..Please respect my decision on what we are doing. I keep seeing comments like how babys live for a few years with this. Well IF my baby lived, it would be a vegetable. And for those saying- Check your options- There are two options :

1- my body will produce more amniotic fluid than normal. This can cause my uterus to expand more than a normal pregnancy and I can hemmorage when I deliver. I will chance my life. My baby will die either way.


2- Induce to terminate. And try for another baby in the future.


Please respect my decision. You do not know what you would do unless this happened to YOU and your family personally.




by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 3:15 PM
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babynurse244
by Bronze Member on Feb. 7, 2013 at 5:36 PM

I'm so very sorry.

tanper29
by Member on Feb. 7, 2013 at 5:39 PM
Im so sorry. My prayers go out to u and ur family. (((hugs)))
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Larsbug
by Laura on Feb. 7, 2013 at 5:43 PM

im sorry 

A-WAHL
by Member on Feb. 7, 2013 at 5:43 PM
I'm so very sorry.
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123MomAmy
by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 5:46 PM
That's so horrible :( I pray that your pain does not last.
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kristyp.
by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 5:46 PM
Im so sorry. I know no words can help :(
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tarakay0417
by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 6:17 PM
I am so sorry hun. *hugs*
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AidanCamsMom
by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 8:15 PM

I'm so sorry :(

NoraDun
by Gold Member on Feb. 7, 2013 at 8:16 PM

I am so sorry!

sfank
by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 8:23 PM

I'm so, so sorry for such terrible news. I also know a family who just went through this. She chose to continue the pregnancy and carried to term. Their daughter died just over 2 hours after birth. My prayers are with you and your family.

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