needing some serious advice

STD's are VERY common. Many of them don't hold much risk for unborn babies. I think what she does about the STD is her business. Of course he is probably cheating on her. If she knows he is cheating and wants to stay, I think you have to just wash your hands of the whole thing. She has to decide she is worth more than a guy like that on her own. You can't force it on her.

Quoting smyeary:

My friend and I are both pregnant, a month apart to be exact. Not planned on either ends for both of us. But I got a disturbing phone call from her today about her doc visit. She has found out she got a STD from her BD. Note that she had missed two months of doctor appointments and now finding out. All she had was blood work and a u/s done the last time. But thank God is was barely there and the baby and her will be alright. I was in shock cause that was like a wow for me to hear that from her... He said he didn't have it but went to health department and got medicine for it. They told her no sexual intercourse for a week. I asked her how could she trust him enough to sleep with him again. There wasn't enough love in the world that I would stay with him. I would be afraid to catch it again... of course she was telling me she didn't want him to leave and that if does it again.. he has to go. Of course I told her your putting your baby at risk as well as your child you have already. And you are the one finding text messages from girls and him gone for hours plus days at a time. Right there should be a trust issue. Of course she starts getting loud with me. I asked please don't yell at me cause you know two pregnant women don't handle that well... she continued to tell me I don't need to be remind her of what she knows. That she knows this and I told her bye with a quickness. Her BD is back out running around tonight doing whatever he does.. I care about her and both of the kids. But I don't understand how she would put her baby back at risk as well as herself. I was being honest with her as a friend and I was in the wrong for saying what she had told me, so that gave her the right to yell at me. What would you do if this happened to a friend? Would you say something or let her be a blinded...

I think I would have done the same thing you did
What did she really expect you to say "yippy you got an std from your cheating piece of crap boyfriend whohoo!"

Honestly...I think you need to just step back at this point...the situation with her is only going to worry you and upset you and she obviously isn't going to do the RIGHT thing (getting rid of the jackass) so there's no good outcome to this

Quoting Mrs.Andrews:

STD's are VERY common. Many of them don't hold much risk for unborn babies. I think what she does about the STD is her business. Of course he is probably cheating on her. If she knows he is cheating and wants to stay, I think you have to just wash your hands of the whole thing. She has to decide she is worth more than a guy like that on her own. You can't force it on her.

Quoting mommyof2kids306:

Quoting kelly617:

I think I would have done the same thing you didWhat did she really expect you to say "yippy you got an std from your cheating piece of crap boyfriend whohoo!"Honestly...I think you need to just step back at this point...the situation with her is only going to worry you and upset you and she obviously isn't going to do the RIGHT thing (getting rid of the jackass) so there's no good outcome to this

Quoting mommy06and09:

i agree. you have said your piece now let it go. if you want to remain friends you need to just be supportive. hugs and good luck.

I can sort of relate to your friend, actually.... my boyfriend hasn't cheated on me, but since I've been pregnant I have been so desperate to keep him and needy all the time that I have thought about how I would handle a situation like this and for the first time ever in my life, I can say I might actually forgive and try to forget. I think maybe it's a biological thing: we feel this intense urge to make sure our mate stays with us to help us raise our young. She still has hope because he still comes home to her. Try to be a little understanding, I know it seems kind of crazy and if she weren't pregnant I would completely agree with you, but I think when you're carrying someone's child it complicates things a bit.

Quoting jheggel1:

I can sort of relate to your friend, actually.... my boyfriend hasn't cheated on me, but since I've been pregnant I have been so desperate to keep him and needy all the time that I have thought about how I would handle a situation like this and for the first time ever in my life, I can say I might actually forgive and try to forget. I think maybe it's a biological thing: we feel this intense urge to make sure our mate stays with us to help us raise our young. She still has hope because he still comes home to her. Try to be a little understanding, I know it seems kind of crazy and if she weren't pregnant I would completely agree with you, but I think when you're carrying someone's child it complicates things a bit.