The reason for this questions is because my 72 year old father is really sick.. And so far no medical prognosis has been given. My heart is shattered and I am in deep depression, but I don't want that to affect my 14 weeks pregnancy, I don't want my child to feel how I feel. My father and I have always been very close and me not being able to be there for him hurts me even more(my father lives overseas). I have tried to calm myself down.. But it's almost impossible. Has anyone gone thru this before?
My half sister passed away early on and my mother was diagnosed with cancer shortly before that.
I was really depressed and stressed out as well. I believe it happened around 14-16 weeks with me as well. Although I think I put up an emotional barrier for a bit. It was tough but you get through it for your baby.
Thank you for sharing your story with me. I just don't know where to find strength from anymore :(
Quoting KLittleton:
My pregnancy has been full of bad luck.
My half sister passed away early on and my mother was diagnosed with cancer shortly before that.
I was really depressed and stressed out as well. I believe it happened around 14-16 weeks with me as well. Although I think I put up an emotional barrier for a bit. It was tough but you get through it for your baby.
My best friend (we were like twin sisters) passed away from cystic fibrosis when I was pregnant with my second (I was actually due on her birthday). I was very very distraught and whe I first was told the news I couldn't stop crying hysterically and could barely breathe and for the next few months I was a mess. But my baby was fine and still is. She was born healthy (past her due date as well-lol) and she did everything early and in the womb she kept developing just fine. I was thrilled when we found out we were having a girl too because my husband right away agreed to let me add her name as a second middle name for the baby. I think that really helped a lot. After the initial pain and then the aftershock numbess wore off I started letting myself talk to people: my mom, my husband, etc. Talking about how you're feeling or what is going really helps so if you have someone you can talk to I would definitely say to do that. You could go out to lunch and help each other sort out the emotions. *hugs* You and your dad and your family are in my prayers.
My Mom was going through a horrible marriage and sudden divorce during my last pregnancy. I was all over the place emotionally. I don't think it had an effect on my baby. I think my depression since she was born has had more of an affect than anything while I was pregnant. I know that isn't the same as losing a parent. But it's the best example I have. I'm really sorry about your Dad. I'll be praying for him.
My brother died when I was pregnant with my first. And a lot of other stressful major life changes happened all at the same time. I don't think some sadness/stress will put the baby in danger. If you are seriously depressed and not eating/sleeping, then that wouldn't be good.
So sick and nausea right now....my cousin and best friend are in Moore Oklahoma and no one can get a hold of them...
- KPJ
on Mar. 2, 2013 at 8:40 PM