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ot but im concerned ..

Posted by on Mar. 5, 2013 at 2:34 PM
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I keep having dreams my df is cheating on me
... is it just hormones? Is this normal? I'm soooo confused I don't think he'd ever do anything but since I've been having the dreams I don't know if I'm thinking into it too much but he carries his phone everywhere takes his phone to the bathroom to shower and poo.. idk if I'm looking into it too much and he's always done it or if my intuition is telling me something. I'm 30 weeks pregnant and it could be just hormonal idk. Has anyone dealt with this before??
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kbear1992
by on Mar. 5, 2013 at 2:39 PM
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ButterflyLette
by on Mar. 5, 2013 at 3:17 PM
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Sneak his phone while he's sleeping and find out for yourself. i had these dreams to found out he's s cheating bastard but u never know!
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avaana06
by on Mar. 5, 2013 at 3:46 PM

Personal question, feel free not to answer: Are you guys having sex on a regular basis? Maybe you are nervous he is cheating because you know he wants more sex? Also, the phone thing could be porn, if he isnt getting sex. If you are having sex normally disregard my comment. LOL

babybryant2013
by on Mar. 5, 2013 at 3:57 PM

I would honestly ask him about it and if you still feel like he is then I would do the phone thing but i would honestly talk to him about it. Sometimes you just have random crazy dreams, I know i do and i am 34 weeks

kbear1992
by on Mar. 5, 2013 at 6:10 PM
No to be honest for some reason most of this pregnancy I have no sex drive whatsoever and to be honest it hurts to have sex I'm not sure why but it has since I have been about 15-20 weeks :( I want sex but it hurts even using lube it still hurts (sorry tmi) so I think its my self concious telling me he doesn't find me attractive and I'm ugly cuz even though I've told him its hurts he's also stopped instigating sex :( its fine when we for play that doesn't hurt. He knows that. Idk I'm just nervous


Quoting avaana06:

Personal question, feel free not to answer: Are you guys having sex on a regular basis? Maybe you are nervous he is cheating because you know he wants more sex? Also, the phone thing could be porn, if he isnt getting sex. If you are having sex normally disregard my comment. LOL


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kbear1992
by on Mar. 5, 2013 at 6:11 PM
Sadly I did this the other night and nothing the internet history was erased and the texts were just same people he always texts..


Quoting ButterflyLette:

Sneak his phone while he's sleeping and find out for yourself. i had these dreams to found out he's s cheating bastard but u never know!

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kbear1992
by on Mar. 5, 2013 at 6:13 PM
I just don't want him to get offended if I ask him is the thing.. I love him and I know he loves me because he still shoes it in ways such as making me dinner and stuff like that but if I ask him I don't want him to get upset I'm accusing him..


Quoting babybryant2013:

I would honestly ask him about it and if you still feel like he is then I would do the phone thing but i would honestly talk to him about it. Sometimes you just have random crazy dreams, I know i do and i am 34 weeks


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Pandapanda
by Cafe Panda on Mar. 5, 2013 at 6:18 PM

Our dreams are the mind's way of making our fears and anxieties known. Dreams of cheating spouses are very common during pregnancy because it's a vulnerable time for us women, with lots of anxieties/insecurities/fears. You should tell him about the dreams you're having, but also let him know if you have any insecurities or worries related to you/your body/pregnancy, etc. 

kbear1992
by on Mar. 5, 2013 at 6:25 PM
I'm not sure how to bring it up to him without offending him though :/ he knows I'm insecure about my body right now and he tells me I'm beautiful and tells me he honestly doesn't see the weight gain I've gained (40ish lbs) I just don't want to offend him telling him my dreams I told him about one dream and he completely ignored the whole thing.


Quoting Pandapanda:

Our dreams are the mind's way of making our fears and anxieties known. Dreams of cheating spouses are very common during pregnancy because it's a vulnerable time for us women, with lots of anxieties/insecurities/fears. You should tell him about the dreams you're having, but also let him know if you have any insecurities or worries related to you/your body/pregnancy, etc. 


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babybryant2013
by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 2:26 PM

if he still calls you beautiful, I would still confront him about it. I would just tell him that it might seem crazy but I have been having these dreams and he should talk about it with you but if he completely ignores it or gets mad about it I personally would think that something is up.

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