Told the parents tonight, it was a disaster......help?
My SO and I told my parents tonight. They are extremely religous and son't like that we aren't married. We are happy together and don't plan to get married. It's just our choice.
We had to tell them eventually. So I got a book about being a big brother. Wrapped it up to give to my mom, telling her than i wanted her opinion on this book before i give it to my son.
She unwrapped it, and for a minute it didn't click. But when it did click, she threw the book at me, and was silent. My dad gave the worst angriest look I've even seen from him and said "you should be married" that's all he said the whole evening. After shock set in, my mom said "that's nice" in that tone and way that she always does because she's too passive to say her real feelings.
I donn't know whatto do about them, I knew it was unlikely this would go well.
I guess I'm just looking for some kind words, or advise or something. Anyone?
Give it some time to sink in. :( I'm sorry they reacted that way. We're on baby #3 and i'll be 13 weeks tomorrow.. we haven't told because I am so very afraid of getting a negative reaction like this!
Did they react like this when you were pregnant with your son?
Well it was totally different. I was married to someone else, and they had no cluewhat I was going through, how horrible the marriage was.
We had a picnic that day, and I brought a gift bag with a congrats card, and bear, and a book "chicken soup for the grandmothers soul". She opened it up, and her face lit up, she was in shock but she was really excited. She kept asking me, "really?"
they were excited through the whole process, they wanted to experience it with me. So yeah, this time, I knew this might happen, but I was hoping for a good reaction, I just didn''t get one.
Quoting Pandapanda:Give it some time to sink in. :( I'm sorry they reacted that way. We're on baby #3 and i'll be 13 weeks tomorrow.. we haven't told because I am so very afraid of getting a negative reaction like this!
Did they react like this when you were pregnant with your son?
I'm sorry. :( I hope they become more supportive over time!
Quoting tinka_pixie:Well it was totally different. I was married to someone else, and they had no cluewhat I was going through, how horrible the marriage was.
We had a picnic that day, and I brought a gift bag with a congrats card, and bear, and a book "chicken soup for the grandmothers soul". She opened it up, and her face lit up, she was in shock but she was really excited. She kept asking me, "really?"
they were excited through the whole process, they wanted to experience it with me. So yeah, this time, I knew this might happen, but I was hoping for a good reaction, I just didn''t get one.
Quoting Pandapanda:Give it some time to sink in. :( I'm sorry they reacted that way. We're on baby #3 and i'll be 13 weeks tomorrow.. we haven't told because I am so very afraid of getting a negative reaction like this!
Did they react like this when you were pregnant with your son?
If I were you, I would tell them how dare they be negative about your baby, their grandchild. I would also tell them that they can choose to be in your life as a happy and supportive presence, or they can remove themselves.
I agree with you on this. But for now I'm hurt, and all I want to do is cry.
Quoting Mrs.Andrews:If I were you, I would tell them how dare they be negative about your baby, their grandchild. I would also tell them that they can choose to be in your life as a happy and supportive presence, or they can remove themselves.
my mom is like that but worst, i dont even tell her anymore that im having a baby, she says things like " keep your damn legs closed" (despite the fact im married) or "dont you have enough kids" so yep been there, i know it really hard not having their support but give it time, my mom always came around maybe they will to
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- tinka_pixie
on Mar. 7, 2013 at 11:35 PM