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Could use some advice.. been on my mind all day

Posted by on Mar. 9, 2013 at 1:11 PM
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Okay if youve read some of my posts you know im 14 weeks pregnant with twins ( I have a four year old an two year old from previous marriage). I have kept it under wraps noone in my family knows while every one in the boyfriends family knows an is excited (of course they are!). I want to tell my mom so badly but I am so friggin scared. I am 24 years old and have been with the babies father since october hes a good man, just doesnt work and that really erks my family. He doesnt seem to make any move to begin to work. Granted he doesnt drive but he keeps the house clean an watches my kids on weekends while im working. My pregnancy is high risk an I want to tell my mom but she will be very disappointed in me. I was on birth control took it religiously but apparently the medicine I was on counteracted it (yes its my fault for not reading the fine print) stupid migraines... I just found out 6 days ago I was pregnant with twins... how do I tell my mom.. shes gonna not be happy an be disappointed and I cant take that right now.. (plus she is severly ill and I dont want to add more on her)

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pacificamom
by on Mar. 9, 2013 at 1:36 PM

I'd come up with an action plan first so she doesn't freak out. I had twins 6 months ago--now way would I have been able to keep them in for 35 weeks if I was working. I also have a 2 year old (special needs) 6 year old and 8 year old.  Does he plan to get a job, has he considered temp agencies, does he have skills or experience and what are his goals?I'd have this serious conversation with him because you may be put on bedrest, have weekly specialist appointment or a variety of other possible appointments due to multiples. I'd make sure you have a plan when you can't work and there is no income coming in. Once you do that and communicate it to her, maybe she'll feel like your being responsible and react in a less negative way

ajohnson08099
by on Mar. 9, 2013 at 1:37 PM
Eek good luck. I had a really rough time telling my family too. They hate SO.. but in the end your family will just have to understand and deal with it. I made sure to tell my mom over the phone. I couldn't do face to face.
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cadkins07
by on Mar. 9, 2013 at 1:51 PM

He wants to work. He is wanting to do landscaping or home reno but without special licenses in our area its hard. He said he doesnt think hed do well in a job where hes doing the same thing over an over again because he needs change. He wants a schedule where he is off on days im off which will not work for our family i need him on weekends so that I can work i make almost 13 an hour sitting at a desk and my employer is amazing so i wont jepordize that. I kinda feel like he is making excuses becaues the temp agencies around us are hiring. I kinda feel like lookin at him an sayin tough shit i dont wanna carry twins but i am. you wanted them now you get to work too. but i am scared to start a fight

cadkins07
by on Mar. 9, 2013 at 1:52 PM

Also I do small work for my dad being his admin assistant at home but that isnt making a lot of money right now. when he does my SO wont have to work, ill be making 4000 a month by myself alone. i just need help now 

GoddessNDaRuff
by on Mar. 9, 2013 at 2:00 PM
Wait migraine meds counteract birth control?!?! Which one if you don't mind answering? This would have been useful information that your doctor could have told you directly. Thanks for the warning
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GoddessNDaRuff
by on Mar. 9, 2013 at 2:02 PM
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Say it. You need to say it. He needs to work.

Quoting cadkins07:

He wants to work. He is wanting to do landscaping or home reno but without special licenses in our area its hard. He said he doesnt think hed do well in a job where hes doing the same thing over an over again because he needs change. He wants a schedule where he is off on days im off which will not work for our family i need him on weekends so that I can work i make almost 13 an hour sitting at a desk and my employer is amazing so i wont jepordize that. I kinda feel like he is making excuses becaues the temp agencies around us are hiring. I kinda feel like lookin at him an sayin tough shit i dont wanna carry twins but i am. you wanted them now you get to work too. but i am scared to start a fight

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cadkins07
by on Mar. 9, 2013 at 2:04 PM


Fiorcet is a major one. I had to go to urgent care because i was not able to see correctly and they took a list of the medication I was on. I filled the medicine and started taking two pills daily one with my bc my ob said i should have contacted them first because they would have told me a different medicine. :/ 

Quoting GoddessNDaRuff:

Wait migraine meds counteract birth control?!?! Which one if you don't mind answering? This would have been useful information that your doctor could have told you directly. Thanks for the warning



GoddessNDaRuff
by on Mar. 9, 2013 at 2:08 PM
Man, my migraines have effected my vision too so I understand but if you told the urgent care folks you were on birth control i think they could have said something. Here they want to know down to the multi vitamins before they perscribe anything. That sucks a mess up like that landed you in this situation.

Quoting cadkins07:


Fiorcet is a major one. I had to go to urgent care because i was not able to see correctly and they took a list of the medication I was on. I filled the medicine and started taking two pills daily one with my bc my ob said i should have contacted them first because they would have told me a different medicine. :/ 


Quoting GoddessNDaRuff:

Wait migraine meds counteract birth control?!?! Which one if you don't mind answering? This would have been useful information that your doctor could have told you directly. Thanks for the warning




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cadkins07
by on Mar. 9, 2013 at 2:10 PM


The did ask me anything I took, and I informed them I was on othro tricycolin (sp) and womens one a day vitamins. 

Quoting GoddessNDaRuff:

Man, my migraines have effected my vision too so I understand but if you told the urgent care folks you were on birth control i think they could have said something. Here they want to know down to the multi vitamins before they perscribe anything. That sucks a mess up like that landed you in this situation.

Quoting cadkins07:


Fiorcet is a major one. I had to go to urgent care because i was not able to see correctly and they took a list of the medication I was on. I filled the medicine and started taking two pills daily one with my bc my ob said i should have contacted them first because they would have told me a different medicine. :/ 


Quoting GoddessNDaRuff:

Wait migraine meds counteract birth control?!?! Which one if you don't mind answering? This would have been useful information that your doctor could have told you directly. Thanks for the warning






GoddessNDaRuff
by on Mar. 9, 2013 at 2:14 PM
So don't beat yourself up. It was their oversight in not informing you about that particular drug interaction. They didn't inform you so you have no reason to think it would effect anything it wasn't an antibiotic.

Quoting cadkins07:


The did ask me anything I took, and I informed them I was on othro tricycolin (sp) and womens one a day vitamins. 


Quoting GoddessNDaRuff:

Man, my migraines have effected my vision too so I understand but if you told the urgent care folks you were on birth control i think they could have said something. Here they want to know down to the multi vitamins before they perscribe anything. That sucks a mess up like that landed you in this situation.



Quoting cadkins07:


Fiorcet is a major one. I had to go to urgent care because i was not able to see correctly and they took a list of the medication I was on. I filled the medicine and started taking two pills daily one with my bc my ob said i should have contacted them first because they would have told me a different medicine. :/ 



Quoting GoddessNDaRuff:

Wait migraine meds counteract birth control?!?! Which one if you don't mind answering? This would have been useful information that your doctor could have told you directly. Thanks for the warning








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