Well I tried to speak with SO last night about him getting a job. He was to say the least not happy and we went to be not speaking. I didnt come at him wrong I sat down on my laptop pulled up craigslist and pulled up jobs he said hed LIKE to have. So in looking at them he said "you realize I have to pass a drug test for all of these and I smoke weed" i said youve drank water for days before and stopped so you can go test and you passed. he responded job ones dont work like that! So i guilt tripped him and said you know what fine Ill work two jobs in my state and you can sit at home an play your stupid playstation that I bought you so you would have something to do at night an not bitch! He looked at me an said I dont want to work different days then you youll go places and ill be freaked out. I dont like it. I was horridly mad at this I was irrate. I looked at him an said well I dont want to carrying twins but I dont have a choice in this matter now do I??! You wanted these kids you have to work too. An he just said I said I would do it but I wont like it and I wont be happy about it. At this time I said whatever and walked out of the room an sat in the living room. He left took the dog for a walk and I talked to my cousin about the issue. I support SO right now. I buy his cigs an his weed and I take care of the house an bills all he does for me is watch my four year old an three year old on the weekends while im at work when they in all reality could go to a grandparents if it came down to it. My cousin said if he doesnt want to be a man then stop buying him stuff. No cigs no weed nothing. (Before you ask he does NOT smoke in my home or around me or my children) He will then see the value of a dollar. It is true that SO has everything handed to him at the house. I give him a hundred every two weeks and then little stuff here an there. I think I have decided he has a week to start looking at that point I will not be buying him anything. If after two weeks from now he still isnt looking he will be asked to leave. I shouldnt have to support him and four children with him just sitting on his butt playing a play station. Having four children on my own will be hard and I have no idea how I will do it... but I have to do something and this just isnt working. He needs to work..