UPDATE: It was confirmed today. Miscarriage Mistake?? PLEASE Help me with this, I am So Lost and confused!
It was definitely a miscarriage and they suggested that I wait another two weeks, by that time I should start a period. Also they said I am perfectly healthy and so is hubby so no problems that will prevent us from trying again. But we are going to wait a year before trying so she prescribed a low dose BC pill and said as soon as I start bleeding i should start taking it. I want to take this year to get in shape, get on a better eating regimen, and work on my relationship with my children And my Hubby.
Thank you ladies So much for all your support and advice, I really needed it through this. I hope to be here again soon.
Ok so it all started like any pregnancy. We had not been trying to have a baby- in fact the plan was to wait a few more years, until dd3 was 3-4 - so when I began to suspect I was preggo, though I was not totally surprised - my last 2 dd's were 'surprises'!- I was Distraught, we were not ready for another baby, i was not emotionally, mentally or physiclly prepared. But as time passed I got used to the idea and even found myself becoming excited and happy. Hubby had taken it Way better from the beginning, smiling and joking about me being ' a fertile myrtle' Gosh! LOL
So then fast forward two weeks. I go in for my first midwife appointment. The other 3 baby's I used an ob, but I was So unhappy with my last ob and the whole experiance throughout my pregnancy and labor with him- Whole other story- I wanted to do it a little different this time, and lots of women have told me that midwifes tend to be more personal, less clinical and so forth.
I was excited and could not wait to see that first image of baby. So first i saw the US tech, and I knew something was wrong right away, she did the belly ultrasound first but said she could not see very much so she would have to do a vaginal US. So she did that and still only saw a little tiny thing. At this point, I saw her face and my ears just starting buzzing, so if there had been a heart beat sound I would not have heard it. She says, Honey I am sorry but it looks like an early miscarriage. This embryo looks to small according to your last period. She said some other stuff, I was so Stunned I could barely blink, I don't remember saying much, but , HUH? You are not serious?' So then she sent me to the room to wait for the midwife who looked at the US and said that she thought an early miscarriage because of the 'last period' and the size of the embro. Of course i freaked, but the next part is what has really got me Totally Freaked out, confused.
1st, I asked her several times if there was No other test she could do to confirm it. I felt like she should at least do some blood work. she Absolutely refused. Would not even consider it. Basicly ' I think you miscarried and I know what I am talking about, so my word is final and I don't have to consider any other option' was her attitude. Only she wants to see me next Thursday for a 'Confirmation US'. After talking to a few other women who have been through this, and 2 nurses, all of them said she Should have done blood work at least, right then to confirm! Also that just because my Period ended a certain day, it Does Not mean that is when I concieved. I could have concieved several days or a week or so later, even if i was not at peak ovulation. Aparatly that happens alot..... =/
2nd she said I should start bleeding this week, and that I would probably get cramps, headache, etc.
I have had NO symptoms of a miscarriage so far but continued syptoms of pregnancy. Nausea, frequent urination, cravings, etc.
I am SO scared and lost. I don't know what to believe. We have gone through 2 weeks of grieveing and mourning. We told only a few family/close friends about the pregnancy and the same people later about our loss. We bought a tree and planted it in memorial of our baby.
Somebody please tell me what is normal. Was she wrong in how she handled this? Could she possibly have been mistaken? And how am I supposed to proceed now, how am I supposed to feel!? I really need words, advice, your thoughts on this.......
Shai-Happy mom to Emi Angie and Baby 'Bells