When ds was born 6 yrs ago, I was 21 dh was 26. Neither one of us knew what we were doing. I didn't have the internet and I must have forgot about the library. I didn't read anything about parenting or my pregnancy. Just went with the flow. I have a few regrets from his infancy and things I would have done differently. The main thing being not breastfeeding. And the other not holding him enough. Dh thought we would spoil him if we held him everytime he cried. I can remember dh taking him out of my arms and putting him in his crib and letting him cry. He said, he has all his needs met. He's fed and has a clean diaper, he doesn't need to be held all the time. Looking back that just infuriates me!! Before we decided to have another one I told him that this time we are going to do things my way. HOLD THAT BABY!! I now know how important it is to hold your baby when they want to be held. I can't wait to spoil her with all my love. :) Unfortunately, I have to go back to work as soon as I can. I got dh a sling so he can old her no matter what he is doing. In the next four weeks and all the time I am home on maternity leave I plan on burning it into his skull how important it is to hold her. Our ds is a little bit of an emotional wrek and cries quit often. Dh hates it. So I'm hoping that by making it clear to him how important it is to her emotional well-being, that he will spoil her with all his love too.