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Think I will burn my VBAC consent form!!!!!!!

Posted by on Apr. 25, 2013 at 9:25 PM
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I am 28 weeks 4 days I have IC and have a cerclage placed. I had gained some cervical length after surgery but I  have funneled down to 1.7 as of two weeks ago. My daughter who is now 4 was born at 30 weeks on the dot. Ive been having pressure down there and have also been suffering from sharp tugging pains in my cervix. my specialist told me at my last check the stitch was trying to hold while my cervix keep funneling and thats the friction I'm feeling. Ive also been having contractions off and on that I wasn't aware of until my homeheath nurse who comes to give me p17 injection was monitoring baby's heart and felt them. so i know I'm not gonna make it full term. I wanted to shoot for a vaginal birth this time and m doc said i was a good candidate for VBAC.... I was giving the consent form to bring back and now I'm just undecided on having a vaginal or cecearean. so many friends and family keep telling me they ripped from vagina to their anus......My sis told me how she ended up with 90 stitches and has never been the same down here. I'm so afraid of trying for a vaginal birth now. i know i will have to decide soon and i think I'm leaning more toward repeat c section. is it possibly to not tear down there or is that slim? 

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by on Apr. 25, 2013 at 9:25 PM
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by Platinum Member on Apr. 25, 2013 at 10:00 PM
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First of all if you truly think you are gonna deliver early then your baby will be very small, you will probably not tear a bit. But personally I would much rather have a small tear then to be cut completely open have my uterus cut through, and my baby ripped out. Is just my opinion but I would take a severe tear over a c-section.

Just FYI I have had 3 vaginal delivers and have never torn.

by on Apr. 25, 2013 at 10:08 PM

Don't tear it up for silly reasons. Research VBACs. Not everyone tears or has problems. I had a great birth, my first child didn't tear me at all. A baby that's a premie will very likely not tear you up. If you understand birthing positions, it'll help even more. There's no reason to repeat a Csection because some people are telling you horror stories. There's always going to be those horror stories, but a million more successful ones if you look for them. 

Research birthing positions. Consult a doula (many are free) or a midwife if you'd like to help you through it. Get to understand the process so you can have the VBAC you want and be fearless. It's an awesome thing, getting to deliver naturally and you have a great chance at not tearing at all.

by on Apr. 25, 2013 at 10:10 PM

 What!! I dont think most people tear..I have had vaginal birth (no tear) then a c-section(breech baby) then vaginal birth(no tear) and this time I am going to have another vaginal birth if at all possible! Infact my doctor said he would do a small cut and pull everything back together for me so I'm like brand new again after having all these babies=D If you want to look it up its called vaginalplasty (women who get cut down there and sewn back up) btw I love your daughters name I have a Jaelyn Kay=D


*also I am a petite frame 90lbs prior to birth pregnancy and my babies were anywhere from 7.11 to 8.11 lbs=D

by Member on Apr. 25, 2013 at 10:13 PM
I had a VBAC this past September with an almost 9lb baby and only had one little tear. Mainly because she came out very quickly.
by on Apr. 25, 2013 at 10:17 PM
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i got over 150 stitches with my first. my second was a csection. i will take birthing one hundred babies naturally and tearing like i did. . . over another csection. i'm due in eleven days and am pushing for my vbac.
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by on Apr. 25, 2013 at 11:04 PM

150 omg!!!

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by on Apr. 25, 2013 at 11:41 PM

My biggest baby was 9lbs6oz and I didn't tear even a little with him.  And like the first poster said, a tear down below is still SO MUCH EASIER to heal from than major abdominal surgery.

by on Apr. 26, 2013 at 12:06 AM

I don't know anyone, personally, who's torn that bad that they needed "90 stitches" or torn end to end. My SIL did tear up with her 2nd or 3rd instead of down, but it was a small tear. 

I have 4 kiddo's, first 2 I got an episotomy and I regret it. My 3rd I only needed 1 stitch, my 4th the tear was so tiny they didn't even bother to stitch me, said it would've done worse. 

by Gold Member on Apr. 26, 2013 at 12:11 AM

My son was 8lbs 8oz...I had FOUR episiotomies (up, down, left and right like a +) and it was NOT a big deal...I was up walking around within an hour of being stiched up and never had any issues from it.

Chances are your lil nugget will be much smaller than that because he/she will be early.
Oh and I had to be cut because his shoulders were too was the only way to get him out...that probably won't happen with you. So I say go for the'll probably be quick and go smoothly

by on Apr. 26, 2013 at 12:33 AM
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You don't have to tear at all.
HOW we labor is very important!!
If I were you I would go for what is safest and most comfy (a normal & intact vaginal birth).


If you don't want to tear there are plenty of things you can do (mostly have as natural of a labor-delivery as possible).

Even a big tear downstairs isn't major abdominal surgery that adds a lot more risks to you/baby's lives.

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