Is baby in your belly YOUR baby? or you and your SOs baby jointly? (i hope that makes sense)
reason I ask is... I was so surprised reading the replies to my other post where most people basically said "who cares what your DH thinks. kick him out/tell him to F off and do whatever you want."
Could you IMAGINE if your SO was on a man's website and they told him "who cares what your wife wants. you're the man. lay down the law and tell her how it will be!" ???
Maybe its just me, but DH and I are BOTH this child's parents and we BOTH have a right to say what will happen. If one of us were abusive or some such thing, that would obviously be different. but when we both have our family's best interests in mind... why in the world would I tell him that he has no say just because I'm the one doing the pushing?
So... am I the only one who thinks this way? What are your thoughts/opinions. In labor is it "What I say goes" or does your SO have a say too?
and p.s. thank you to those of you who politely suggested that I should get him to read/watch videos to be better educated. I got an excellent book from the library and tabbed the spots I wanted to share with him. I told him "I know you just want what is best for baby and I 100% appreciate that. I want what's best for baby too. I would love to--sometime later this week--share with you some of what I've been reading so you can better understand my perspective and why I truly think these things are best" and he agreed to listen.