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Are you serious? vent *update*

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So the wic office told me I am only allowed to gain 15 pounds during this pregnancy due to the fact that I'm overweight. Now my so is coming down on me hard about my weight.. I've cut out sodas, started drinking more water, eating healthier then what I normally do and trying not to eat that many things high in sugar and fat. I've latterly ate a small bowl of honey oats for breakfast, a sandwich for lunch and 7 bites of my mom's dinner because it was loaded in fat and a apple for a snack... I'm so hungry I'm going to be sick and my so won't let me eat... my so has very low body weight and my son does too ( he's in the 20% ) so if I starve myself like everyone is asking me to do my poor baby is really going to be small. I was told I'm only allowed to eat 3 small meals a day and my portions have to fit in the palm of my hand. This is crazy!!! I get eating healthy but Damn I'm going hungry trying to do what I'm told.


Ok so I saw my doctor to get my referral today for my midwife and she said 20-30 pounds is good and as long as I'm eating right and doing light exercises then I'll be just fine. My so apologized for being so harsh and agreed to help motivate me to workout and help keep me on track to eating as healthy as possible... he even said he'll start feeding me 6 times a day :) hopefully soon I get my appt to hear the babies heart beat for the first time... I'm so excited and nervous. I just wish I knew already what it is that I'm having... I have a there though. With my girls I had energy and I wasn't as moody but with my son I was so tired I couldn't even get out of bed and I was a real bi*** so far I've had energy and not that moody so I'm thinking a girl... lets see if my theory is right but I'm praying for another boy.
by on May. 8, 2013 at 11:13 PM
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threat
by Bronze Member on May. 9, 2013 at 10:26 AM
No I'm not. I love meats especially red meats but I'm trying to eat more white meat and less red


Quoting doulala:

I would suggest avoid those extra grains/carbs.    Replace with lean protein and you will not be as hungry!
Are you a vegetarian?


threat
by Bronze Member on May. 9, 2013 at 10:34 AM
No they won't take it away they just said that it's because I'm big and I could cause a lot of damage to myself and the baby. With my son who's (11months) I gained over 60 pounds and he's a very healthy baby just thin because his daddy is very thin and the men in my family are very thin too. But with him I didn't even try to eat right but this time around I am.


Quoting NDADanceMom:

What happens if you gain more? Will they take the wic away?

Mariah-1987
by Bronze Member on May. 9, 2013 at 10:39 AM
They aren't allowed to tell you how much to gain and what to eat. They aren't doctors. Next appointment address this issue with your doc.
threat
by Bronze Member on May. 9, 2013 at 10:46 AM
I definitely am going to. I have an appt tomorrow


Quoting Mariah-1987:

They aren't allowed to tell you how much to gain and what to eat. They aren't doctors. Next appointment address this issue with your doc.

Mariah-1987
by Bronze Member on May. 9, 2013 at 10:54 AM
Its bullshit. I'm 26 wks and 5'8" started at 200lbs. I have gained 26 and my doc isn't even concerned. This is my 3rd and I've gained 50 with each. This is they heaviest I have ever been, I'm usually this big at 9 months but this is the way it is. There is no stopping it and if somebody wants to tell me I am gaining to much then they will get to see a pregnant chick come unglued lol


Quoting threat:

I definitely am going to. I have an appt tomorrow




Quoting Mariah-1987:

They aren't allowed to tell you how much to gain and what to eat. They aren't doctors. Next appointment address this issue with your doc.


Hoevegirl1986
by Bronze Member on May. 9, 2013 at 10:59 AM
My ob dr said if ur overweight that its best to try and loss weight bc the bigger u r the harder it is on u and ur baby.
angevil53
by on May. 9, 2013 at 11:05 AM
This!! I follow a gd diet and only gained 9# so far. Due any day now. Yes I've splurged here and there but i also work out, started at 15wks. I ran for awhile but i had to stop around 7.5mo so now i do aqua zumba and walk. Stay away from milk and cereal etc. I eat cheese and pepperoni a lot. Apples and pb. Half a banana here or there. A low carb protein shake for breakfast. I love creamed cauliflower instead of mashed potatoes and i can have as much as i want :)


Quoting doulala:

I would suggest avoid those extra grains/carbs.    Replace with lean protein and you will not be as hungry!
Are you a vegetarian?


NoraDun
by Platinum Member on May. 9, 2013 at 11:19 AM

Wow, I can't imagine being with a man who doesn't love me for me no matter my weight! I think your seriouly putting yourself and your unborn child at risk. And you shouldn't be listening to your Wic office anyway, they are not Drs. YOu should ask your OB his opinion! YOu should be eating 6 small meals a day including fats, fruits, etc. Healthy fats are essential to your baby's bran growth etc.

mem82
by Ruby Member on May. 9, 2013 at 11:22 AM

You need to eat what you need to eat. Your SO sounds boarderline abusive.

Basherte
by Bronze Member on May. 10, 2013 at 6:41 AM


Quoting miasmommy21407:

Um...not okay. It's one thing to recommend a certain weight gain....most doctors do it. There's evidence on both sides of the spectrum but to be so strict about it is not a good idea. All that's going to lead to IMO is a low birth weight baby. You need to listen to your body's cues. You said you feel like you're really hungry...then EAT something. There is a difference between eating when your body says to and eating to be eating. There are so many factors that go into how much a woman needs to gain. Some studies have even shown that race, age, prior gaining history, etc all play into what is normal for each woman. There are doctor's working hard to get the current recommendations changed to better meet the needs of the individual woman. 

As long as your are eating healthy and staying active then you don't need to put that much stress on yourself. WHAT you are eating and the QUALITY of the food you put into your mouth is far more important that the AMOUNT. 

Seriously though...if you are hungry, PLEASE, go eat something. Have a banana and some cereal with low fat milk or an ounce of cheese with an apple or a wheat tortilla with a bit of cheese. Listen to YOUR body and speak with your midwife or doctor about what is right for YOU. 

I agree here, completely.

I also feel that high stress during pregnancy isn't healthy either.

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