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How do you put this nicely?

So we are planning on having my shower at a park. 

But we want it to be known that if you bring your children, you must bring someone who was not invited to the shower to watch your children while at the park. 

I was thinking

"Other fathers needed to help expecting father with children at park during games/presents" 

But we aren't sure how to put it with out sounding rude.

My husband will be there specifically to help with the children, as he will already have our daughter.


Holy fucking shit.....

Some of you women need to get your panties of your assholes...

AND FUCKING READ. 

I already came up with wordidng, well my mother did. 

"Children are welcome to attend, but please make sure there is some one there to watch them after lunch is served if you plan on attending the games and gift opening." 

How is that hard to realize? 

I am going to say most will end up leaving their children at home anyways, but we are putting the option there, since there is a play ground on BOTH sides of the pavilion we are using. 

by on Jun. 27, 2013 at 4:43 PM
Replies (11-20):
MrsKaufold1990
by on Jun. 27, 2013 at 5:02 PM

it's THEIR HUSBAND/FATHER OF THE CHILDREN. 

How is that a sitter? 


Quoting kstorm234:


Because most baby sitters arent going to want to travel somewhere with the parent. They will see it as why do i have to come if the parent is there. Finding a sitter to watch your children at home is a lot different then dragging them along somewhere. 

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

How is it silly? 

Because they would have to find a sitter to begin with. 

And I am not going to make my husband keep an eye on 20+ kids. 

He agreed to our child and some one elses who doesn't have anyone. 


Quoting LoveOfWisdom:

I'd just make it adult only.  No one is going to bring someone to watch their kids, just seems silly.

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

Well think about it. 

If we say "no kids"

They still would need to get a sitter correct? 

And yes, anyone who is showing up, will have to put how many people are showing up. Including children. 

Children, and the other adult, whomever that might be, will be allowed to eat with us. 

But then when it's time to open gifts and play games, the children need to go play, hence why we are doing it at a park, at the inside pavolin. 


Quoting LoveOfWisdom:

Why would they need a sitter to watch the kids and would you provide food/drinks to the "sitter"?  










notjstanothrmom
by Silver Member on Jun. 27, 2013 at 5:03 PM
2 moms liked this

Why can't kids sit and watch you open gifts? I am not seeing why they need to go and play.

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

How is it silly? 

Because they would have to find a sitter to begin with. 

And I am not going to make my husband keep an eye on 20+ kids. 

He agreed to our child and some one elses who doesn't have anyone. 


Quoting LoveOfWisdom:

I'd just make it adult only.  No one is going to bring someone to watch their kids, just seems silly.

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

Well think about it. 

If we say "no kids"

They still would need to get a sitter correct? 

And yes, anyone who is showing up, will have to put how many people are showing up. Including children. 

Children, and the other adult, whomever that might be, will be allowed to eat with us. 

But then when it's time to open gifts and play games, the children need to go play, hence why we are doing it at a park, at the inside pavolin. 


Quoting LoveOfWisdom:

Why would they need a sitter to watch the kids and would you provide food/drinks to the "sitter"?  







MrsKaufold1990
by on Jun. 27, 2013 at 5:03 PM

I already said yes. 

The person who is going to be watching the children and the children are allowed to eat. 

And it's not like a random stranger, it'll be their husband/father of the child. 

And if they don't bring their husband/father of said child, they won't be paying attention to the shower.


Quoting notjstanothrmom:

People can take care of their own children... if not then they aren't doing their jobs as parents. Are you going to be feeding the rest of the people they take with them to watch their kids?



MrsKaufold1990
by on Jun. 27, 2013 at 5:04 PM

Children will get in the way. 

Have you been to a shower with children. 


Quoting notjstanothrmom:

Why can't kids sit and watch you open gifts? I am not seeing why they need to go and play.

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

How is it silly? 

Because they would have to find a sitter to begin with. 

And I am not going to make my husband keep an eye on 20+ kids. 

He agreed to our child and some one elses who doesn't have anyone. 


Quoting LoveOfWisdom:

I'd just make it adult only.  No one is going to bring someone to watch their kids, just seems silly.

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

Well think about it. 

If we say "no kids"

They still would need to get a sitter correct? 

And yes, anyone who is showing up, will have to put how many people are showing up. Including children. 

Children, and the other adult, whomever that might be, will be allowed to eat with us. 

But then when it's time to open gifts and play games, the children need to go play, hence why we are doing it at a park, at the inside pavolin. 


Quoting LoveOfWisdom:

Why would they need a sitter to watch the kids and would you provide food/drinks to the "sitter"?  









xxjadedhaloxx
by on Jun. 27, 2013 at 5:05 PM
7 moms liked this

I would just say no kids.  My shower was done at my house and there were not extra people needed to watch the kids because they all played with my children in the bedroom.  If you don't want kids around for a big part of your shower I would just say no kids.  For the most part guys don't like coming to baby showers anyways so why not just let the dads stay at home with their kids?

notjstanothrmom
by Silver Member on Jun. 27, 2013 at 5:06 PM
1 mom liked this

So then why not invite "Mr. and Mrs. Smithson" rather then "Oh hey, make sure Dad's there to watch the kids at the park because I don't want them watching me open gifts."

Problem solved.

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

I already said yes. 

The person who is going to be watching the children and the children are allowed to eat. 

And it's not like a random stranger, it'll be their husband/father of the child. 

And if they don't bring their husband/father of said child, they won't be paying attention to the shower.


Quoting notjstanothrmom:

People can take care of their own children... if not then they aren't doing their jobs as parents. Are you going to be feeding the rest of the people they take with them to watch their kids?




notjstanothrmom
by Silver Member on Jun. 27, 2013 at 5:08 PM
10 moms liked this

You must have some friends that do not know how to parents then.

I have been to a shower with kids, my own shower had children at it. No one got in the way.

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

Children will get in the way. 

Have you been to a shower with children. 


Quoting notjstanothrmom:

Why can't kids sit and watch you open gifts? I am not seeing why they need to go and play.

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

How is it silly? 

Because they would have to find a sitter to begin with. 

And I am not going to make my husband keep an eye on 20+ kids. 

He agreed to our child and some one elses who doesn't have anyone. 


Quoting LoveOfWisdom:

I'd just make it adult only.  No one is going to bring someone to watch their kids, just seems silly.

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

Well think about it. 

If we say "no kids"

They still would need to get a sitter correct? 

And yes, anyone who is showing up, will have to put how many people are showing up. Including children. 

Children, and the other adult, whomever that might be, will be allowed to eat with us. 

But then when it's time to open gifts and play games, the children need to go play, hence why we are doing it at a park, at the inside pavolin. 


Quoting LoveOfWisdom:

Why would they need a sitter to watch the kids and would you provide food/drinks to the "sitter"?  










MrsKaufold1990
by on Jun. 27, 2013 at 5:08 PM

Because then it is assumed that the Mr is invited as well. 



Quoting notjstanothrmom:

So then why not invite "Mr. and Mrs. Smithson" rather then "Oh hey, make sure Dad's there to watch the kids at the park because I don't want them watching me open gifts."

Problem solved.

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

I already said yes. 

The person who is going to be watching the children and the children are allowed to eat. 

And it's not like a random stranger, it'll be their husband/father of the child. 

And if they don't bring their husband/father of said child, they won't be paying attention to the shower.


Quoting notjstanothrmom:

People can take care of their own children... if not then they aren't doing their jobs as parents. Are you going to be feeding the rest of the people they take with them to watch their kids?






MrsKaufold1990
by on Jun. 27, 2013 at 5:09 PM

Just three. 

We were going to do it at a buffet, and put 

"In order to be paid for you must RSVP by said date." 

But either way we put it, it's going to be rude. 

And honestly, it's not about anyone else. 

If they want to be there for me and my husband, then they will figure something out. 

It's no different then them finding a sitter for at home anyways. 


Quoting notjstanothrmom:

You must have some friends that do not know how to parents then.

I have been to a shower with kids, my own shower had children at it. No one got in the way.

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

Children will get in the way. 

Have you been to a shower with children. 


Quoting notjstanothrmom:

Why can't kids sit and watch you open gifts? I am not seeing why they need to go and play.

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

How is it silly? 

Because they would have to find a sitter to begin with. 

And I am not going to make my husband keep an eye on 20+ kids. 

He agreed to our child and some one elses who doesn't have anyone. 


Quoting LoveOfWisdom:

I'd just make it adult only.  No one is going to bring someone to watch their kids, just seems silly.

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

Well think about it. 

If we say "no kids"

They still would need to get a sitter correct? 

And yes, anyone who is showing up, will have to put how many people are showing up. Including children. 

Children, and the other adult, whomever that might be, will be allowed to eat with us. 

But then when it's time to open gifts and play games, the children need to go play, hence why we are doing it at a park, at the inside pavolin. 


Quoting LoveOfWisdom:

Why would they need a sitter to watch the kids and would you provide food/drinks to the "sitter"?  












notjstanothrmom
by Silver Member on Jun. 27, 2013 at 5:10 PM
21 moms liked this

Why the hell wouldn't he be invited? If he is going to the shower reguardless and eating with you then why wouldn't they be invited.

You are not making ANY sense. I wonder if anyone will show to your shower. You sound uptight.

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

Because then it is assumed that the Mr is invited as well. 



Quoting notjstanothrmom:

So then why not invite "Mr. and Mrs. Smithson" rather then "Oh hey, make sure Dad's there to watch the kids at the park because I don't want them watching me open gifts."

Problem solved.

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

I already said yes. 

The person who is going to be watching the children and the children are allowed to eat. 

And it's not like a random stranger, it'll be their husband/father of the child. 

And if they don't bring their husband/father of said child, they won't be paying attention to the shower.


Quoting notjstanothrmom:

People can take care of their own children... if not then they aren't doing their jobs as parents. Are you going to be feeding the rest of the people they take with them to watch their kids?







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