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How do you put this nicely?

So we are planning on having my shower at a park. 

But we want it to be known that if you bring your children, you must bring someone who was not invited to the shower to watch your children while at the park. 

I was thinking

"Other fathers needed to help expecting father with children at park during games/presents" 

But we aren't sure how to put it with out sounding rude.

My husband will be there specifically to help with the children, as he will already have our daughter.


Holy fucking shit.....

Some of you women need to get your panties of your assholes...

AND FUCKING READ. 

I already came up with wordidng, well my mother did. 

"Children are welcome to attend, but please make sure there is some one there to watch them after lunch is served if you plan on attending the games and gift opening." 

How is that hard to realize? 

I am going to say most will end up leaving their children at home anyways, but we are putting the option there, since there is a play ground on BOTH sides of the pavilion we are using. 

by on Jun. 27, 2013 at 4:43 PM
Replies (31-40):
LoveOfWisdom
by on Jun. 27, 2013 at 5:22 PM
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Oh my, I think you post just to argue sometimes. LOL  You are making your baby shower into an ordeal when it doesn't need to be. If you are at all worried about kids being in the way, make it simple and keep it adults only.  Either dads will stay home with the kids or a sitter will be found for home.  


Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

People will show. 

The only one not making sense is you. 

Just because I don't want children in the way of something meant for ME and my children. 

A lot of people don't allow children, and find other ways to deal with it. 

This is no different then saying 

"No children."


Quoting notjstanothrmom:

Why the hell wouldn't he be invited? If he is going to the shower reguardless and eating with you then why wouldn't they be invited.

You are not making ANY sense. I wonder if anyone will show to your shower. You sound uptight.

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

Because then it is assumed that the Mr is invited as well. 



Quoting notjstanothrmom:

So then why not invite "Mr. and Mrs. Smithson" rather then "Oh hey, make sure Dad's there to watch the kids at the park because I don't want them watching me open gifts."

Problem solved.

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

I already said yes. 

The person who is going to be watching the children and the children are allowed to eat. 

And it's not like a random stranger, it'll be their husband/father of the child. 

And if they don't bring their husband/father of said child, they won't be paying attention to the shower.


Quoting notjstanothrmom:

People can take care of their own children... if not then they aren't doing their jobs as parents. Are you going to be feeding the rest of the people they take with them to watch their kids?










MrsKaufold1990
by on Jun. 27, 2013 at 5:22 PM

Thanks. 

That sounds really good!!!!!!!!!! 

But what if we say

"Children will be able to play at play ground after lunch is served."


Quoting HopeRegardless:

 "Dear ladies, please feel welcome to bring your spouse and children to baby shower for food and games, we will be holding the celebration at the park so that dads/caregivers and children will be able to play during the traditional parts of the shower. Please rsvp with number of people so that the buffet table can be stocked accordingly. We look forward to seeing you Month/Day" Perhaps something like that? I'm sure there might be a little bit better but that's all I can think of if you would like include children/dads during part of the shower but still enjoy the games that women typically play and during gift opening. 



MrsKaufold1990
by on Jun. 27, 2013 at 5:23 PM

If he hosting the shower. 

Sure. 

But he isn't hosting the shower. 


Quoting notjstanothrmom:

So can't your husband just lead and say at the shower "Alright, gift time, let's leave the women to their womenly things and let's take the kids over to the park!!"

Voila!

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

They won't be there for TWO PARTS of the entire shower. 

I never once said that I wanted them there for everything. 

If I wanted them there for the entire shower I would invite

Mr and Mrs. 

But I am sure the person making my invites will know how to word it properly.


Quoting notjstanothrmom:

So what is the problem with inviting the men? They are going to eat too right?

I am just not understanding inviting the whole family if you want them there anyways.


Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

Actually I have a five year old, so thanks. 

Kids are invited to EAT. Then they can go play at the fucking park. 

Hence the reason why we are having it at a park. 

It's not like I am saying

"Bring your husbands, and you must say at the park." 

Nope, I am saying

"Husbands are greatly appareciated to help expecting father with children at the park." 


Quoting notjstanothrmom:

Yes, there is a difference. Do you have any kids now? I doubt it because you don't know what it's like to take them anywhere.

Either kids are invited and WELCOME or they aren't invited. If you don't want kids there then just don't invite the kids. If you want the fathers there then invite the fathers. Why in the world wouldn't you want the fathers invited if they were expected to be there anyways?

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

People will show. 

The only one not making sense is you. 

Just because I don't want children in the way of something meant for ME and my children. 

A lot of people don't allow children, and find other ways to deal with it. 

This is no different then saying 

"No children."










notjstanothrmom
by Silver Member on Jun. 27, 2013 at 5:25 PM
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laughing


Good luck!

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

If he hosting the shower. 

Sure. 

But he isn't hosting the shower. 


Quoting notjstanothrmom:

So can't your husband just lead and say at the shower "Alright, gift time, let's leave the women to their womenly things and let's take the kids over to the park!!"

Voila!

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

They won't be there for TWO PARTS of the entire shower. 

I never once said that I wanted them there for everything. 

If I wanted them there for the entire shower I would invite

Mr and Mrs. 

But I am sure the person making my invites will know how to word it properly.


Quoting notjstanothrmom:

So what is the problem with inviting the men? They are going to eat too right?

I am just not understanding inviting the whole family if you want them there anyways.


Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

Actually I have a five year old, so thanks. 

Kids are invited to EAT. Then they can go play at the fucking park. 

Hence the reason why we are having it at a park. 

It's not like I am saying

"Bring your husbands, and you must say at the park." 

Nope, I am saying

"Husbands are greatly appareciated to help expecting father with children at the park." 


Quoting notjstanothrmom:

Yes, there is a difference. Do you have any kids now? I doubt it because you don't know what it's like to take them anywhere.

Either kids are invited and WELCOME or they aren't invited. If you don't want kids there then just don't invite the kids. If you want the fathers there then invite the fathers. Why in the world wouldn't you want the fathers invited if they were expected to be there anyways?

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

People will show. 

The only one not making sense is you. 

Just because I don't want children in the way of something meant for ME and my children. 

A lot of people don't allow children, and find other ways to deal with it. 

This is no different then saying 

"No children."











Nancy34
by Member on Jun. 27, 2013 at 5:26 PM
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Ok I was thinking there is no way to put this nicely but I have to give it to you that's pretty good and it doesn't sound mean at all . I would go if it was stated like this


Quoting HopeRegardless:

 "Dear ladies, please feel welcome to bring your spouse and children to baby shower for food and games, we will be holding the celebration at the park so that dads/caregivers and children will be able to play during the traditional parts of the shower. Please rsvp with number of people so that the buffet table can be stocked accordingly. We look forward to seeing you Month/Day" Perhaps something like that? I'm sure there might be a little bit better but that's all I can think of if you would like include children/dads during part of the shower but still enjoy the games that women typically play and during gift opening. 


MrsKaufold1990
by on Jun. 27, 2013 at 5:28 PM

I'm going to copy and paste this, and then show it to my mom.


Quoting Nancy34:

Ok I was thinking there is no way to put this nicely but I have to give it to you that's pretty good and it doesn't sound mean at all . I would go if it was stated like this


Quoting HopeRegardless:

 "Dear ladies, please feel welcome to bring your spouse and children to baby shower for food and games, we will be holding the celebration at the park so that dads/caregivers and children will be able to play during the traditional parts of the shower. Please rsvp with number of people so that the buffet table can be stocked accordingly. We look forward to seeing you Month/Day" Perhaps something like that? I'm sure there might be a little bit better but that's all I can think of if you would like include children/dads during part of the shower but still enjoy the games that women typically play and during gift opening. 




MamaSarah1104
by Bronze Member on Jun. 27, 2013 at 5:29 PM
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Who cares if they're "paying attention" to you opening all your gifts?!? No one really cares that much. I think you need to just say no kids please since you don't seem to tolerant of them in the first place.

Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

I already said yes. 

The person who is going to be watching the children and the children are allowed to eat. 

And it's not like a random stranger, it'll be their husband/father of the child. 

And if they don't bring their husband/father of said child, they won't be paying attention to the shower.



Quoting notjstanothrmom:

People can take care of their own children... if not then they aren't doing their jobs as parents. Are you going to be feeding the rest of the people they take with them to watch their kids?




HopeRegardless
by on Jun. 27, 2013 at 5:29 PM

You are welcome, glad that it helps. Whatever you think works best. :) I think it's nice that you want to include everyone, and I think it's more than reasonable to want a part of your shower to be more traditional. 


Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

Thanks. 

That sounds really good!!!!!!!!!! 

But what if we say

"Children will be able to play at play ground after lunch is served."


Quoting HopeRegardless:

 "Dear ladies, please feel welcome to bring your spouse and children to baby shower for food and games, we will be holding the celebration at the park so that dads/caregivers and children will be able to play during the traditional parts of the shower. Please rsvp with number of people so that the buffet table can be stocked accordingly. We look forward to seeing you Month/Day" Perhaps something like that? I'm sure there might be a little bit better but that's all I can think of if you would like include children/dads during part of the shower but still enjoy the games that women typically play and during gift opening. 





MrsKaufold1990
by on Jun. 27, 2013 at 5:32 PM
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Thanks. 

I am copying and pasting this, and showing it to my mom when she gets home.


Quoting HopeRegardless:

You are welcome, glad that it helps. Whatever you think works best. :) I think it's nice that you want to include everyone, and I think it's more than reasonable to want a part of your shower to be more traditional. 


Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

Thanks. 

That sounds really good!!!!!!!!!! 

But what if we say

"Children will be able to play at play ground after lunch is served."


Quoting HopeRegardless:

 "Dear ladies, please feel welcome to bring your spouse and children to baby shower for food and games, we will be holding the celebration at the park so that dads/caregivers and children will be able to play during the traditional parts of the shower. Please rsvp with number of people so that the buffet table can be stocked accordingly. We look forward to seeing you Month/Day" Perhaps something like that? I'm sure there might be a little bit better but that's all I can think of if you would like include children/dads during part of the shower but still enjoy the games that women typically play and during gift opening. 







lovebugs_mom906
by on Jun. 27, 2013 at 5:32 PM
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Honestly, it sounds like you are way over thinking things. The most common sense and logical thing to do if you don't want kids there is to say "no kids". Your food costs will be cheaper and the kids won't be in the way. As a mom, if I knew they weren't wanted there, I would keep them at home. Saying "no children" seems a lot nicer than "bring your kids, but you can't pay attention to them, so you better bring a sitter,and they can't be around for presents or games."
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