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Just don't know what to do and i'm over it

Posted by on Jun. 28, 2013 at 7:46 AM
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So my boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months now and for 6 1/2 of those months we had sex like rabbits, 3-5 times a day. it was amazing. sometimes exhausting lol but there was always just that physical connection between us. Lately about the last 3 weeks, he has no desire to do anything sexual, he thinks something is wrong because he even tried to look at porn to see if that worked. It didn't, no desire. It's really frustrating and annoying to me since i am 21 weeks pregnant and very hormonal. I cry everynight because we just go to sleep. My friend told me i'm too hard on him. He talked about it the other night and he said he feels so bad and he doesn't know what's wrong. I keep thinking it's me, i'm getting fat and I might just turn him off. He swears it's not but i can't help but take it personal. I'm also tired of coming home from work, eating, showering and just laying there while he sleeps. He's a roofer so i mean he is in the heat all day, i get it, but everynight he just is falling asleep. It's just very frustrating.

I just don't know what to do anymore. I don't even want to go home.

by on Jun. 28, 2013 at 7:46 AM
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by on Jun. 28, 2013 at 7:48 AM
You are having a kid with a guy that you have been dating less than a year? I'm guessing he is having second thoughts.
by on Jun. 28, 2013 at 7:53 AM

No, he's absolutely estatic about it. He cannot wait.

And less than a year, who cares. When you know, you know.

by on Jun. 28, 2013 at 7:54 AM
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If porn isn't helping maybe its thinking about the future with a child or may be medical.

by on Jun. 28, 2013 at 8:27 AM
Happy or not, it can be very stressful to have a baby :/
by on Jun. 28, 2013 at 9:22 AM
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Sounds like maybe he is just stressed out. And quit giving him a hard time about. Maybe just snuggled up and talk. If your relationship is all about sex then your going to run into problems sown the line. Me and Dh don't have sex everynight some nights we just lay there talking and laughing at each other. You are gonna make his stress worse worrying about everything.
by on Jun. 28, 2013 at 9:32 AM
He is probably burnt out, sex 3-5 times a day is a lot. Other things that can lower sex drives are drugs, stress, and medical problems.
by on Jun. 28, 2013 at 9:57 AM

regardless if he is excited , having a baby is a big financial burden an men think in $ signs add the heat an you get one tired man, having sex that much is unrealistic especailly with a baby

i think you should stop giving him such a hard time i understand the desire for sex but maybe try to work on the emotional part of the relationship getting pregnant so quickly after becoming a couple adds to the situation be happy he has choosen to stick around, an maybe he is looking for the emotional connection i have no clue im not in your relationship

but you can always handle your own bizz if he is not up for it

by Silver Member on Jun. 28, 2013 at 11:30 AM

I'm 24 weeks and for the past few weeks my husband has been having the same problem. He says it's partially because he gets a little weirded out about our baby being in my stomach but it seems like more than that because he just generally hasn't been as horny. I read in one of my books that expectant fathers produce an estrogen-like hormone that can make them more emotional and gain I'm assuming that hormone is playing a role somehow. It's so frustrating because I just want to have sex all the time since I got pregnant!

by Gold Member on Jun. 28, 2013 at 3:05 PM
If he can't figure out what's wrong an neither can u, and u feel its starting to get to the point that it might endanger ur relationship then maybe u should coincided some kind of counseling. GL
by on Jun. 28, 2013 at 3:09 PM

Sounds like maybe you all are passing the "honeymoon" phase in your relationship. I know lots of relationships can start out crazy hot and passionate and you can't get enough of eachother, but as time goes on it calms down a bit. He also has a lot to wrap his head around, you have a baby coming and time is passing by pretty quickly. I'm also sure that working out in the heat all day everyday is enough to just drain him. I know its hard when you want it so badly but those might just be things for you to keep in mind. I'm sure it isn't that he doesn't want you anymore he might just be burnt out!

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