See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
I waited ten and a half months for my husband to get home from overseas...we planned to have our baby on his two weeks back home....We got married when he got home for good. I was about 20 weeks when we got married. Anyways now he is home and has PTSD and also has had depression issues his whole life (which no one bothered to tell me,( because they said he seemed happy with me and they didnt think he would go back into his depression stage) I have been through hell and back with everything. We were going to counseling at the VA by where we were living, but one day we had this arguement and he told me that he can find a woman who can deal with his PTSD alot better then I do. (I have tried and tried to be there for him, I love this man.....I took vows with this man, and they were for better or for worse.) So when he said that he can find someone else I lost it. I told him "Good luck and while your at it, try finding someone who is going to wait a year for you to get home from overseas too, cause it wont be easy) After he said that to me I went to the backroom and started packing a few of my things. He came back in anger and said "Fine, you want to pack, I'll GLADLY help you. (I was in tears) and then he looked right at me and said "and give me those rings back (my wedding rings) because you dont even deserve to wear those on your hand!" I was always faithful to him, always. Anyways, he never wanted me to lay with him, to hold him, we barely kissed, and he never wanted to even put his hand on my stomach to feel OUR baby kick. He always got too impatient and took it off and went and watched TV. And this is after we got married. He told me "Its like that baby is all that you can comprehend.) I was speachless when he said that to me. He was verbally abusing me through his words, but never called me names, he just said that I couldnt do the simplest tasks and he was always rude to me. I know he sounds like an asshole, but i've always let it slide because he was diagnosed with PTSD from being overseas.
Needless to say i am living at home with my parents now, He wants a divorce. I am 33 weeks pregnant. (I've been back home for about 3 months now) and no word from him, except a text from him saying he has a lawyer and he is taking me to court for custody and for the divorce. He told me to get out. And now he wont even except my phonecalls, texts or anything. He is really rude. I am falling into a depression lately because I just want my family to be together. I want him to be ok and I just keep hoping that this PTSD counseling will get him just the help he needs. (He only goes one time a week though for counseling.) Im hoping that when the baby is born he will come around. I am a strong woman, but this all is just tearing me right apart. I cry out of nowhere becasue of this all. I am trying every single day to pull myself together for my daughter. She needs me and she is my main priority. I cant even explain how much this is all hurting me. I did nothing at all to deserve this. Please ladies, I need advice.