I am completely freaking out over giving birth to our 3rd child! I have no idea how to handle the situation we are in. Hubby and I moved out of state at the beginging of the year (way before we got pregnant and we didnt plan this pregnancy either). Anyway we got preg and we have NO family or friends in our area. At least no friends who know how to handle children or any that my children even know to begin with. THey are all hubbies co workers who travel and do not have families with them.
We were originally planning on paying for my parents to come down before the baby was due and stay here for 2-3 weeks. Well now things have changed (first I am due dec 26) and my sister who is 13 has an event she HAS to attend on Dec 22 preventing my parents from coming any sooner. My mother has never ever driven on a highway that requires speeds over 55 and absolutly refuses to let me buy her a plane ticket over here alone. And they planned on breaking the trip down into 2 days since its about a 12 hour drive. Normally this would be ok But given that this is my third child I wouldnt want to risk not having a back up plan in place for our other children. I have never made it past 38 weeks and there is no garuntee that I will make it all the way until christmas with this baby.
Before you suggest other family yes we do have hubbies family but I seriously CANNOT handle them and neither can my 1 year old. She screams every single time she is left alone with any of them and refuses for any of them to care for her. She has been like this with them since she was a newborn. I can't imagine leaving her in their care for 2 days (maybe more you never know). The reason I personally prefer them NOT to be here when I give birth is because they have NO respect for my household at all. They are very messy people they leave clothes, shoes and socks whereever they take them off (yes in other peoples houses even the adults do this) they do not clean up after them selves they constantly leave soda cans, cups, plates, wrappers all over the place (coffee table, the mantle, counters, bookshelves). I dont even allow eating in the living room but they completely disregard my rules. They dont help extra with cooking and cleaning when they are here they just sit around all day and watch tv and wait for either me or my hubby to do everything. When they visit its one thing to just be patient and wait until they leave to clean my home again but when I am freshly out of the hospital I DO NOT want to come home to a messy, loud, dirty house and have to clean and do shit. And when I say loud I mean loud they talk to each other from across the house instead of getting up and going to each other and the tv is always full blast. This is just something that I could not handle after giving birth. I know how I am after birth. I want to come home, lay down and just relax. Hubby is very helpful with the baby and my needs but house cleaning? Not so much. I am able to do extra before hand so its not so much but I know if hubbies family was required to come and help us instead it would be in shambles before I even made it to the hospital.
Sorry this is so long I am really just freaking out. If my parents were able to come they would help out so much with making dinner and the clean up after them selves and have respect for my home and what i allow and dont allow in my home and not to mention my mom is the ONLY other person my 1 year old has taken to EVER besides me and hubby. It has always been this way no matter who we try to leave her with it always turns into a disaster.