I don't agree with that comment at all ! Me and my mom planned my first baby shower because my mil was treating me like crap. I was living with my Dh and his mom at the time and she was saying how she was going to plan it. Long story short, she wasn't going to invite any of my family, she was however inviting these random strangers that I had never met, one being Dh's ex girlfriend because she liked their family. Then she choose these horrible yellow and green decorations (I know because she asked Dh if he liked them). We were clearly having a boy ! and a triple chocolate cake which me AND her son hated. It was a disaster. So my mom planned it and I gave her a few ideas and a list of my friends to invite. I didn't choose any decorations, food, nothing because I will always trust my mom. The date was a surprise and it was a blast. All my family and friends were there and we had a great time. So in most cases, I think planning or helping plan is def worth it. Baby showers only happen once (per child) and it's supposed to be memorable and special.. Do you what you feel is necessary and don't let other peoples opinions get you down :)
Perhaps people that think it's "greedy" don't feel they deserve one? But I think it's very HARD NOT to get involved because you want YOUR friends and family and loved ones so you have input on the invitation list. Then there's the food, which the pregnant woman wants to be able to enjoy, right? Then there's the time and date....who would want to be giving a party when the honoree is sleepy or crabby usually at a certain time of day or have other plans for a particular date? Not to mention, she has to register for gifts in itself. So she might as well have a hand in the planning. I grew up in a Military city, so lots of moms had to throw their own parties because they were always moving to a new place with their husbands when being stationed. So it's the norm for some people. Don't let anyone make you feel bad.
Quoting sweetgrlangel:Your not suppose to throw your own shower. Its tacky and seems a bit greedy ....
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