inlove but whats best for. the baby

You don't have to be with the father to raise your child. The father left me. And I'm still going to raise this baby. Plus it's my third child

I hope you get the answers you want and need! I don't know how people give up on their children, it seems to happen a lot. A friend of mine is going through the same thing you are...I know from seeing her posts all the time that it is not easy! : (  Congrats on your miracle!

I was a single mom with my first one.

Being healthy, and happy is a better environment for raising a child, then being stressed out and worried or fighting all the time.

If you can't work it out and the two of you are not good together relationship wise, there's no reason you cannot part as friends and still be the parents of the baby together, even if your not dating or in a relationship together.

All I can say though is my life was easier because my ex wanted nothing to do with the baby if I didn't want him, so it allowed my future husband to adopt him.

There are some men who are meant to be good fathers, they sometimes make excellent partners, and sometimes, they make better friends, then lovers. You won't always know what kind of man you got until you have the baby in your arms and faced with the reality of what a baby is actually like to raise.

why can't you be together? you CAN raise a child by yourself, and if you truly feel you can't there are MANY families out there waiting for such an amazing gift.

I never said i wouldnt raise my child.
I will raise my child i know its not going to be easy. But i decided. To be grown and lay there not i step up to my responsibilitys .
I know am going to be a good mother regardless if i have him helping me or not.

Quoting Larsbug:

why can't you be together? you CAN raise a child by yourself, and if you truly feel you can't there are MANY families out there waiting for such an amazing gift.

Why can't you be together.....

He has 2 kids already and hes an amazing father.
I would never denie him his rights.
I just really want a family
But the fighting. Is non stop
That is what i dont want.
Especially.when the baby gets here !

Quoting kajira:

I was a single mom with my first one.

Being healthy, and happy is a better environment for raising a child, then being stressed out and worried or fighting all the time.

If you can't work it out and the two of you are not good together relationship wise, there's no reason you cannot part as friends and still be the parents of the baby together, even if your not dating or in a relationship together.

All I can say though is my life was easier because my ex wanted nothing to do with the baby if I didn't want him, so it allowed my future husband to adopt him.

There are some men who are meant to be good fathers, they sometimes make excellent partners, and sometimes, they make better friends, then lovers. You won't always know what kind of man you got until you have the baby in your arms and faced with the reality of what a baby is actually like to raise.

Theres to muc . Fighting.
And hes not happy. He wants his old life
The pregnancy. So far ive been the only one excitted and doing what needs to be taken care of for the baby.

Quoting WifeySlymm:

Why can't you be together.....

Exactly. That is what being a mother is all about, doing what is best for your child. You don't cease to exist, but once you've decided to bring a baby into the world, your needs do take a backseat.

You don't have to be with the father of your child to give your child a good family. Sometimes it works out better that way.