She had an abortion, and then tried again RIGHT away... **ETA included
My boyfriends sister got pregnant last year. She made a decision to get an abortion. Im pro choice so that isnt what bothered me at all.. Shortly after we found out that I was pregnant. Then she decided she wanted a baby after all.. so they started trying to get pregnant again. I am now 30 weeks along. Yesterday we found out she is now pregnant.
A little further back story.. She was a heroine user and to my knowledge is still taking suboxone to make sure she doesnt use. Its because of her drug history that she does not have custody of the daughter she already had.
This part might be a bit petty but it adds to why Im upset. This is my boyfriend and I's first baby.. &Even besides all these other reasons to be irritated with her Im also irritated that she couldnt maybe hold off on trying until after we had our baby. I know its not right but I wanted my baby to get some spotlight attention at least for a little while, but now he'll only get to be the baby of the family for a couple months.
Im not expecting any specific response from you all, I just needed to share with someone.
ETA; After reading the responses, I just want to make it clear that I know the spotlight thing is silly. Thats why I said it was a bit petty! You cant all try to tell me you've never had nagging feelings in the back of your head about petty things that bother you no matter how silly they may be.
Im far more upset about her use of suboxone through pregnancy. Not taking care of the kid she already has. and MOST of all her decision to get an abortion in the first place. I fully support anyone that chooses abortion, but I think it is definately wrong for her to have terminated one pregnancy just to right away decide to get pregnant. Abortion should be seen as a more permanent solution, not something to have just for the sake of having one.. I feel like she must not have thoughht out the decision thoroughly enough if she changed her mind right away afterwards.
&Lastly it does really seem like she decided to get pregnant as sort of a jealous thing because I got pregnant.
To me it just seemslike her timing is really poor, and her decision making skills obviously not quite in order.