Girls Gone Wild founder Joe Francis and his 26-year-old girlfriend, Abbey Wilson, are expecting their first children. I say children because, yes, Abbey is pregnant with twins. According to reports, Francis and Wilson opted to get pregnant via IVF because they wanted to be able to choose the sex of their baby: They're having girls. Francis said, "We chose to have girls. I believe people will finally understand my love, respect, and admiration for women. I love girls." Oh. Okay.
Thus far, there had been no indication that Wilson wasn't able to have children naturally; the couple simply wanted healthy babies that were female. "We both wanted girls and we wanted them to be healthy and free of genetic diseases so we chose to do IVF," Wilson told Us Weekly.
Of course, it's no one's business if Wilson, or Francis, are unable to have children; they certainly don't have to tell us. But if they were perfectly capable of having kids, is it a little strange that they sort of "custom-designed" their kids?
Part of the joy and learning experience of parenthood comes shortly after getting pregnant, when you realize your baby-to-be is nothing like you imagined. I was convinced I was going to have a boy until my anatomy scan told me otherwise -- and it was right then and there that I realized I'm in for a lifetime of surprises from my child. And I like it that way. (And of course there are those incredibly patient people who wait to see what they're having [how do you do that?!], who get the ultimate surprise.)
By no means am I saying that Joe and Abbey won't be good parents. But I do think it's a little strange to pick the sex of your child if you're perfectly capable of having a baby naturally. In a way, that means right from the get-go, they're setting an "expectation" for their kids.They want girls, assumingly, "traditional" girls. What if their kids like trucks? Or blue? Or army figurines that make explosion sounds? That probably won't be in line with their vision of what a "girl" is. I'm assuming -- gosh, I hope -- that they'll love them regardless. Just like they'd love a boy. And that's the beauty of parenthood: It's unconditional love.
I'm all about improving science and medicine in order to give expecting mothers and babies the best possible care they can get. But I'm not gonna lie. I kind of hope "customized babies" don't become a thing. Something about it, particularly if you're otherwise healthy, seems so out of line with everything (I think) I know about being a parent.
Would you pick the sex of your baby if you could?
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