So I'm almost 6 weeks pregnant with number 4. HOWEVER, number 3 was born 5 years ago and I'm currently 34 and a little nervous. My OB will not see me until I'm 10 weeks along. The receptionists words were "because you still might miscarry and we don't want to waste appointments on people who aren't going to have a viable pregnancy because if you do start to miscarry there's nothing we can do anyway". Well, OK, I have a lot of questions but if I have to go through an advice nurse, I'll do so. Today I'm on the phone with the advice nurse and mention the menstrual style cramping I've been having which I was told was normal to have early in pregnancy so long as not accompanied by bleeding. I asked if sex was OK and she said yes...to which I told her I had wanted to make sure because 9 years ago a different OB had told me he wanted me to go 10 days with no cramps before having sex with my husband and I ended up cramping the whole pregnancy so we went 9 months with no sex. The nurse says, well if you guys don't mind doing that then it would probably be better and that it just depends on how badly I want the pregnancy.
First I'm told the cramping is normal and that sex is fine and then 5 seconds later why don't we just wait 9 months for sex again?
And whats with the "there's nothing you can do to cause or stop a miscarriage....but don't do this, this or this and if this happens make sure to do this and not this...Oh, but we don't want to see you yet in case you do miscarry but if you start to miscarry call immediately and go to the emergency room".
I feel like I'm getting the information run around and I'm getting frusterated that it's not at least coming from the doctors mouth, who, for how hard it's been to try to get in to see him, might as well be the president.
and, yes, I'm venting but am getting SOOO frusterated.