I am 24, engaged, and 34 weeks pregnant with my son. He is my first baby and my parents' first grandchild. My mom has always been a malicious type of control freak (she has even gone as far as making sure two people at work were fired just because she wanted a chance at applying for their jobs...it's been a little scary). She is relentless at times, and my dad is an architect so she definitely has all the money in the world to play with when she really wants something done. Well, yesterday she was with me at the store picking out a car seat. I bought a $78 car seat and she promptly told me she would be getting a much nicer one to put in her car. She has also bought herself a stroller, high chair, crib (she decorated an entire nursery at her house for the baby), and more baby things than I have at my own house. She also refused to go to my baby shower last weekend. At first I thought she was only just excited because this is the first grandbaby...but after yesterday I'm starting to get nervous. She has NEVER liked my fiance and for whatever reason she has filed away that he is going to abuse our baby. He is a little rough around the edges (lots of tattoos and such), but he would never do anything to hurt a child. He is so sweet and loving with his 5 year old daughter that it's just ridiculous sounding every time my mom tries to say that I need to make sure he has no rights to the baby for protection purposes. Yesterday I told her that there's really no reason for her to buy anymore baby formula (I'm planning on breastfeeding but she is completely against me doing that so she has been stocking up on Similac formula and bottles...whatever) and I also told her that she isn't going to have the baby by herself all that much. She was extremely upset about that! She insisted that when I work she would be taking care of the baby, but my plan with my fiance is that he will be working mornings and I will be the caretaker, and then when I go to work at night HE will be taking care of the baby so we should never have to have a babysitter for reasons related to work. My mother is acting like she is going to be a second mom, or even possibly have him more than me! She got so upset when I told her I'm not going to be leaving the baby with her every day that she actually threatened to call child services over the first hang nail she finds on the baby and have him taken away from us. Like I can't take care of my own baby...it's making me a little nervous. I can honestly see her calling child services too; she is definitely that much of a control freak. I have always been very close to my mom, I'm pretty much the only friend she's got. But something like this (her trying to take my child from me) would be enough to make me cut all ties and never want to speak to her again. Does anyone have any advice on this situation? I know this was kind of a long post, but it is REALLY bothering me.
on Aug. 17, 2014 at 8:32 PM