what can i do to get my boyfriend to stop smoking before our baby is born? i have tried everything i can think of and nothing seems to work and he keeps saying he is going to but then he puts it off and we dont have that much time left! i quit the moment i found out i was pregnant and we were going to do it together except after a couple of days of "trying" he started again. i have even gone as far as saying i will leave him if he doesnt quit( he does not take that threat seriously) i am tired of nagging him and i feel he should want to for the sake of his child, if not for his own health!

Its hard to get someone to quit if they don't want to. Unfortunately, quitting for the sake of a child isn't enough sometimes. Maybe if you restricted where he smokes (like outside only - 20 ft. away from doors/windows) he may consider it too much of a hassle or realize how you feel about it. Good luck! I hope he comes around!! :)

Wow I feel your pain. I TOO TRYED TO GET MY HUBBY TO QUIT BEFORE THE BABY AND HE TRIED FOR LIKE FOUR DAYS AND STILL STARTED UP AGAIN!!! HE EVEN TRIED ELECTRONICAL CIGRETTES THAT ARE $149.99.....BUT THEY HAVE NICOTINE IN THEM...www.smokeeverywhere.com ....FINALLY I JUST GAVE UP BECAUSE I TRIED FOR 6 YEARS.....FINALLY I REALIZED THERE IS NOTHING I CAN DO!!! SOMEDAY I REALLY HOPE HE QUITS!!!

Maybe the miracle of seeing his child will help him decide to quit. It sounds like you've done everything you can, so it's up to him to take the initiative. My grandfather stopped smoking the day I was born because he realized how much harm he could do by chain-smoking around a precious baby. (I wish he had learned that with his OWN children instead of waiting for his first grandchild, but oh well...)
- natalierose
on Dec. 15, 2008 at 7:10 PM