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no SEX? am I the only one?

Posted by on Jan. 28, 2009 at 11:20 AM
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My DH NEVER wants to have sex with me. It is starting to REALLY bother me!!! He says it is because I'm pregnant (I'm 34 weeks) and it just makes him feel uncomfortable. Does anyone else's DH say this??? Is anyone else not having sex??

Posted by on Jan. 28, 2009 at 11:20 AM
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maryinger
by on Jan. 28, 2009 at 11:22 AM

 nope, but we are currently not having sex because he messed up really bad and i'm withholding. it sucks. i want it so bad. damn pride.

lomarey
by on Jan. 28, 2009 at 11:22 AM

bumpI hope things get better for you!

melhayes
by on Jan. 28, 2009 at 11:23 AM

 I sometimes wish my dh was like that. Mine would have sex 3 or 4 times a day if I'd let him. I'm so uncomfortable already and it hurts, so I do not want to be touched at all. I feel so bad for him.

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Jazzy611
by on Jan. 28, 2009 at 11:27 AM

with my first, i ended up alone, so it wasn't an option to have sex.. with my daughter, my bf wanted to have sex all the time.. even when i didn't really want to... he usually talked me into it.... we actually had sex the morning before i had her... with my youngest, it really hurt to have sex after i was about 6 months... i tried a few times for him, but i just wasn't in to it.. 

maybe he's afraid of hurting you or the baby.. just talk to him.. let him know how you feel..

good luck...

MommyIvy
by on Jan. 28, 2009 at 11:32 AM

Same here!

Quoting melhayes:

 I sometimes wish my dh was like that. Mine would have sex 3 or 4 times a day if I'd let him. I'm so uncomfortable already and it hurts, so I do not want to be touched at all. I feel so bad for him.


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shaunadale
by on Jan. 28, 2009 at 11:32 AM

I think that is pretty normal. My husband gets weirded out by the belly after a certain point. Some men love the belly, some men don't.

ally90
by on Jan. 28, 2009 at 11:33 AM

i dont have this problem but i am sorry to hear that you do....sex while prengnant is amazing!!!!

i think out of me and my husband im the one who isn't always up for it

Evansmom24
by on Jan. 28, 2009 at 11:34 AM

Personally it is me who doesn't want the sex. It just takes so much effort when I'm pregnant because we can't do it the way I like it best because my belly is in the way LOL. So we hardly have sex.

earthmama727
by Bronze Member on Jan. 28, 2009 at 11:39 AM

My DH & I have only had sex a small handful of times since I've been prego... He says it's not that he isn't attracted to me, and I know he's been working a lot & is tired, but it still concerns me.  Unfortunately it seems to be a 2-way street.  Half the time I'm too tired, and even when we've attempted it, I can't say it 'hurts',  but it just doesn't feel the same.  None of the positions seem to work or are very comfortable... it ends up feeling more like a struggle than the fun it's supposed to be... I miss enjoying sex! =-(

CaiNy5
by on Jan. 28, 2009 at 11:41 AM

 with this pregnancy, I LOVED having sex...but now Im on bedrest, so we cant, and Im only 29 wks....We have so much longer to go

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