After baby, what are you doing?

i dont know that the child would have to be there within that first hour. just soon after the birth.

 

what i think well do is have someone who is in the waiting room (family) watch our DD while im in labor. then after baby is born take 15-30 minutes of bonding time for me and my SO then bring in our daughter. i cant see her being there too long, i doubt shell stay interested and will probably get cranky. so maybe let her bond with the baby for about an hour then have her grandparents take her for some lunch and a nap, then allow her to come back later.

It kind of worked out good for us ...I went into labor around 4am and then my cousin came to watch my dd until she woke up and then brought her up to the hospital to wait in the waiting room..she's very easy going and I made sure to have a bag packed of very entertaining things for her...she came in right after and was very overwhelmed with everything in the hopsital room...it took her till her little brother was a week old to officially kiss him...each time she tried she give him an air kiss...she was very nervous! ...Now that her little brother is 2 months old I can't get her away from him lol (she was 21 months at the time)..

If you have someone that can watch your little man during your labor I would set that up...bc you never know how long it may be...

I am pregnant with my third.... 

when my second was born my son had only just turned 14 months old.  I wanted to include him, however,  my second was born at 4am.  Not the ideal time to bring a toddler into the hospital.  Instead, we used the time to bond with the new addition, and then sleep and my oldest son was brought to the hospital later that day, when mom, baby and daddy where more fully rested.

I think it is important to include the older kids in the birth of a new sibling, however I would not feel comfortable with my toddlers being present at my birth.   Perhaps if they were older,  and wanted to be present, I might consider it.  But at such a young age a whole new aspect coomes into play. Such as: what if child becomes hungry/tired/bored?  I daddy going to have to leave the room with him?  Will I be more stressed out with him there, simply because so much is happening and toddlers don't do well trapped in one space for very long?    I don't have any painkillers during birth, so maybe its different with an epi, you're more relaxed or etc,   I would just be concerned about my impressionable young child being present while his mommy is moaning/writhing/occasionally screaming in pain.   I want him to understand  that it is a natural part of life but why does he have to understand when he is 3?  He most likely won't remember it anyhow.  Maybe you can video tape it and that will help him feel more included,  and then he will also have the added benefit of having a non in pain mama right next to him explaining how his brother/sister was born.

Whatever you decide is going to be the right decision for your family. 

good luck!

I HAD A SCHEDULED C-SEC W- MY 2ND N 3RD, SO AFTER THEY BROUGHT ME IN THE REGULAR RECOVERY P.P ROOM, MY FIANCES MOM OR SISTER BROUGHT THE KID[S] IN THERE.THEY ACTUALLY GOT IN THE ROOM BEFORETHE BABY CAME!!! I WAS A LITTLE LOOPY CAUSE OF THE MEDS N PAIN OF IT, BUT ITS ALWAYS GOOD TO HAVE UR S.O THERE N A NOTHER PERSON, INCASE THE CHILD WANTS TO GO.I WAS WORRIED ABOUT THE DAYS 2 FOLLOW... WHO WOULD WATCH N STAY WITH THEM WHILE I WAS IN THE HOSP. N HE WORKED TOO WHILE VISITING. BUT IT WORKED OUT GOOD.THEY SHOULD HAVE EXCUSED DAYS FROM SCHOOL FOR KIDS WHOS MOMS R HAVING A BABY. AT LEAST A DAY OR 2

Mine is going to be a scheduled c-section. My inlaws will be keeping my son the night before the surgery and then bringing him to the hospital in the morning to wait until I am out of recovery. I want my son to be the first person to meet the new baby... but I dont necessarily think it needs to be within the first hour.

My son will be in the waiting room with my mom and the rest of the family. I will be having a planned c-section with this one so hopefully the baby doesnt decide to come any earlier than my c-section date. And once everyone can come in my son will come in and take our first family pictures together.

I wish my son could be there. I would like to see him ASAP after the baby is born. But that can't happen for us. The birthing center is a 2 and a half mile drive, so we are having his godfather watch him. Especially if I go into labor at night, plus I have no one to watch him if we did take him :(

I left my daughter with her grama and grampa when I went into labor... My mom and dad brought her to see us probably a good couple hours or so after the baby was born. I was tired and really didn't want any visitors at the time... Plus I went into labor at 3 in the morning so it was best to let my daughter sleep until her normal 'wake up' time in the morning before she came to see us.

Do what you think is best for you and your family. I don't think your son will miss that much bonding if he's not there with in the 1st hour. JMO

It may be too much to have him there. After all he is only 3 and may require ALOT of attention while there that just may become over whelming.

My 5 year old will not be watching his little brother or sister enter the world. He will be in the waiting room with his Grandparents and Auntie if I am in late labor during the day or evening....if it's in the middle of the night, he can come and visit first thing in the morning!

My son stayed with grandma and grandpa when I had his brother and he came to visit the following morning. I was in labor at night and it's probably not really prudent to make a little kid get up in the middle of the night to come visit me in the hospital. I wanted to make it as little of a disruption as possible for him...