question about a D&C

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I would not get the d&c it still early

this happened to me about 3 yrs ago or so... i was 12 weeks pregnant and went to the ER for spotting. they said bby never developed after 6 wks... same thing, pretty much the sack was empty. i had a D&C done because they said if nature takes its course... it may not "clean" everything out... i guess this can cause infecton and bacteria build up. plus... for me that was easier than knowing i am pregnant... but not... idk. its completely ur decision. I made mine and was happy i did because 3 mo later i was pregnant with my baby girl!! 

First off let me say I'm sorry this happened to you. And second, of course no one can tell you what to do. But when I had a miscarriage the dr. left the decision totally up to me, let it happen naturally, or have the d&c. There are risks with letting it happen naturally but i know women do choose that option, because like you said, you hope they are wrong. My doc said that by letting it happen on your own, that if it doesn't fully happen there is a chance of hemorrhaging and with you being so far away from a hospital i would definitely be concerned about that.

Me personally, I just couldn't sit around and just wait for it to happen. I had a d&c 2 days later, and those 2 days were hard enough on me.

I am so sorry for your loss.

To answer your question, I have had 4 D&Cs and 4 times of having things go naturally. I seemed to have a quicker recovery emotionally from the D&Cs. Things happening naturally take a long time with me and it was so hard to have to face the physical aspects on top of the emotional.

But- as you can tell, I had a series of losses- with no live births. And testing showed that I have a blood clotting disorder *yes, it took that long to figure out what was happening... If this is your first loss, have them monitor you hormone levels for a week- if they are dropping, you are losing the baby. If they aren't, then you aren't as far along as you think you are. Follow your instincts on this. You don't want to second guess yourself.

I am here if you need to talk- just pm me

thanks for the replies. i still have no idea what i want to do, but i am getting tired of waiting for it too happen and it could take weeks for it to happen on its own. i really dont want to spot for the next two or three weeks. i have had a miscarriage before and i have a 6 month old son, (which this pg wasn't planned, so i am thinking it happened to soon) with my last miscarriage i never had anthing more than spotting and i passed the baby it only took 5 days.. i just dont feel right having something sucked or scrapped out of me, but like i said, the waiting is hard.

so sorry to hear this. I personally had 2 miscarriages early on and both passed completely on their own. I am in nursing school though and was able to watch a D & C yesterday (I know kind of weird but that's nursing school!). The dr told me that the lady had actually had a D & C 2 weeks ago but it wasn't complete so she ended up back in the ER with bleeding and needed another one. I am not saying this to scare you, just to share another side of it. There are pros and cons to both I guess. It's just something to think about. Good luck. Also, I took my test at 3 weeks ago (positive) and I am only 6 weeks, so it is possible you aren't as far along as you think. Maybe give it another week and see if they can see a heartbeat? I read a post of someone else that said she was told there was no heartbeat and to have a D & C but chose not to- ended up being too early to see the heartbeat. Just something else to think about. take care.

I'd get a second opinion with a different doc personally.  My husband's ex-SIL was told there was no baby with her son and the day before she was scheduled for a D&C she got a second opinion and there he was.

This does happen. There was no baby on my first ultrasound and I was thinking I was like 7-8 weeks. There was just a gestational sac, we didn't even see a yolk sac. Well the next week I had another u/s and we again almost didn't find the baby until she had me tilt my bottom up (it was a transvaginal u/s) and there she was! Turns out my uterus is slightly tilted.She was only about 5 weeks gestation and I was th inking I was atleast 2 weeks farther along. I am just saying that I would go back and see just to make sure. But that is me.

Quoting CAgirl1214:

I'd get a second opinion with a different doc personally.  My husband's ex-SIL was told there was no baby with her son and the day before she was scheduled for a D&C she got a second opinion and there he was.

im sorry to hear what ur goin through,i mc 16 mos ago n didnt even know i did till i bled for like 9 days strait,,, i didnt know i was pg......but then got pg the next month. but if i were u, id def wait n see if ur nunbers r changing or for a heart beat..im not sure if it has anything to do w- it but r u having pg side effects????