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Discussion Topic 1/25-02.01: Religion

Posted by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 11:52 AM
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Ok this week, lets discuss religion: how do you teach a child, what if you and Dh (so/bf)  have different views, or if you dont have a preferance and your kids are asking....

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by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 11:52 AM
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alexsmomaubrys2
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 11:59 AM

DH and I are Atheist. We are raising our children to be free thinkers and to learn how to use their critical thinking skills. We believe that they should always question authority, even ours. That doesn't mean they get the run of the house, just that they are always entitled to know why. And when they get older, we will be open to discussions and open converstations over the rules but of course we always have the final say.

If they want to explore religion, that is fine with us too. We will supervise and escort them to religious functions/services. We will have open and honest conversations with them to make sure they are choosing for themselves and not out of some peer pressure.

Both DH and I were raised in the Christian Church. Mine was very conservative and his wasn't.

I have studied all 6 major religions in college and have studied some of the not so known one's on my own. I find them all very interesting but none of them true.

"An Atheist believes that a hospital should be built instead of a
church. An Atheist believes that deed must be done instead of a prayer
said. An Atheist strives for involvement in life and not escape into
death. He wants disease conquered, poverty vanished, war eliminated."

- Justin Brown


fairymom2316
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 2:54 PM

DH and I have different religious backgrounds. I think we have a lot of questions about it. We both believe in God but we don't believe in the man-made idea of religion. We both have been studying on it and questioning things that were taught to us when we were little. We believe in prayer, it has worked for us. Not sure what we are going to teach our kids, we are still debating.

missamanda86
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 4:56 PM

My husband and i both were raised in church, forced to go whether we wanted to or not we wanted to, so it has made both of us doubt, and question things, so we have decided if our kids want to go to church, then they are welcome to but neither of us have any desire to. My daughter has been to church, but shes only 2 and has no real idea about it, so until she or my son start asking questions then they can go if someone wants to take them


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wildwiccan83
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 5:14 PM

I am Wiccan and hubby...well he doesnt know what he is. he believes there is something out there but has no idea what exactly he believes. I honestly don't really think he thinks about faith to much. Hubbies family though is christian and so we take my son around them for thier hollidays, and he sees the wiccan ones at home. When he grows old enough to understand faith he will be allowed to choose his own no matter which he chooses even if it is a completely different one.

I'm a firm believer that religion is a personal thing and each person trully has thier own religion.

FrogSalad
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 5:16 PM


Quoting alexsmomaubrys2:

DH and I are Atheist. We are raising our children to be free thinkers and to learn how to use their critical thinking skills. We believe that they should always question authority, even ours. That doesn't mean they get the run of the house, just that they are always entitled to know why. And when they get older, we will be open to discussions and open converstations over the rules but of course we always have the final say.

If they want to explore religion, that is fine with us too. We will supervise and escort them to religious functions/services. We will have open and honest conversations with them to make sure they are choosing for themselves and not out of some peer pressure.

I echo this.  Also, learning about various world religions with my child so he can learn that not everyone believes the same thing about deity and that it's ok to not believe as everyone else around him does. 

When you go home you ought to go like a ray of light -- so that it will, even in the night, burst out of the doors and windows and illuminate the darkness.  Robert G. Ingersoll

Jonescatnj
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 5:37 PM

My husband is Jewish and I'm Christian (Methodist/Lutheran upbringing). Before we got married we talked about all of this and decided to raise the children we'd have Jewish. So far, that means we celebrate the holidays, light the Sabbath candles Friday night and attend the toddler service once a month. I feel somewhat sad at times like Christmas and Easter but otherwise enjoy the Jewish traditions. The values reflect what I believe so I don't have too much conflict. I do find that I emphasize that God loves the kids more than my husband does (he's more into the respect of God) and try to talk about how wonderful God made this world. I answer any questions the kids have truthfully but I've been lucky so far as neither of my kids has asked much about Christianity and how the beliefs differ.

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QuinnsMommy
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 5:44 PM

I was raised in a Christian home, going to church every sunday along with sunday school and the like. I began questioning things in my teens and after some research came across the Wiccan path and have been following that since, probably about 10yrs now. DH was raised Catholic, and after straying for awhile I believe he is heading back to those beliefs. I have no problem with this and he has none with my beliefs. When it comes to our child I am also a firm believer in letting him experience and decide for himself. That being said, I plan to and do incorporate all our beliefs into his life.

One thing DH and i have yet to agree on is baptizing him. Quinn is 3 and still not baptized. I was open to doing this and would like it done sooner rather than later but DH seems to only want him baptized Catholic and I don't want that. I am ok with him getting baptized non denominational though. So we'll see how that goes.

missamanda86
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 5:47 PM

I agree 1000% with this statement

Quoting wildwiccan83:

I am Wiccan and hubby...well he doesnt know what he is. he believes there is something out there but has no idea what exactly he believes. I honestly don't really think he thinks about faith to much. Hubbies family though is christian and so we take my son around them for thier hollidays, and he sees the wiccan ones at home. When he grows old enough to understand faith he will be allowed to choose his own no matter which he chooses even if it is a completely different one.

I'm a firm believer that religion is a personal thing and each person trully has thier own religion.



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Se7enTh1rt3en
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 5:50 PM

Dh and I are methodist, as are my parents.  His parents are believers, but not ones who practice (not that I'm judging).  We are raising our children in our faith, but if, in the future, they'd like to explore their options, I will support and encourage it.

justanotherjen
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 6:03 PM

I'm atheist and my husband is...who knows.  One minute he says I shouldn't say things about religion or god and the next he bashes the same people.  I assume he's atheist because he laughs at the thought of a higher power.  We don't really ever discuss religion.  We also live with my dad who is agnostic so religion isn't a big thing in our house.

BUT--my kids go to a Catholic school (long story) so they are exposed to it every day.  It's been an interesting balancing act between what they are being taught is THE truth and what we believe personally.  The older 3 kids (9, 8 and 7) all know that Mommy, Daddy and Papa don't believe in the religious things they are being taught.  My 3 1/2yo knows nothing about it and doesn't care.  The older kids really don't care either.  Sometimes they talk as if they believe the Bible and other days they say it doesn't sound real and they don't believe.  I think they are too young to make an informed decision either way but I keep religion out of our house for the most part.

They've never really asked anything about what they are learning in school or anything religious so it's never come up and not a big deal.  We still celebrate Christmas and Easter but they are completely secular.


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